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writes:myself and partner have recently split up due to his paranoia,behaviour and attitude towards me,i went out saturday night and got talking to this guy he was very nice a real gentleman even sang to me which suprised me i was really flattered.he gave me his number and asked if i he could take me for a meal i never gave an answer,now my dilema is my head saying ring this guy but my heart says otherwise and why because im still inlove with my ex i know i cant live in hope or put my life on hold waiting for my ex to get intouch as his past reputation says alot numerous ex girlfriends but i know we had something very special but not special enough for him to ever propose or even talk about a future together which do i follow head or heart!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): i would say follow your head. if he is showing paranoid behaviour and you have never given him a reason then you have done the right thing. How did your meal go? You should now be honest and tell your ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): thanks everyone your answers helped me to decide that i am a special person and somebody has taken an interest in me and i am now going to go for the meal and take it from there.
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reader, rocknroll  +, writes (28 May 2009):
Now I know there was a popular song in the 60's that said "love the one your with", but personally, I found the meaning and suggestion to be wreckless.
Keeping it friends only (dinner okay) for a little longer I think would be in your best interest. Being honest to the guy that though you are single, you wish to make an effort to salvage what you had with your ex, but it looks 50/50 at the moment. A hug and good night kiss (no tongue) is okay, but nothing more.
For your ex, we would need a little more information as to the problems seen from each others eyes, then we could offer a suggestion so that you might be able to repair the relationship, or give your best last shot before you move on.
I would not cut off all contact with this new guy, just not yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): It's just a meal, just getting to know someone, not a head or heart decision! Relax and live life and that involves getting to know people. You don't even know this guy yet and you act like he's proposed to you or something! Where's the dilema, I don't see it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): If everyone believed that no man is worth waiting on.. every man in the Army would be single.
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reader, kayla +, writes (28 May 2009):
 U should call this guy up. I mean you have got to eat. right? Go out and have fun. Just because you go out for dinner doesn't mean you have to marry the guy. No man is worth waiting on! So don't wait on your ex that's exactly what he wants you do to. Show him you can get out and have fun without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): Well it depends. I follow my heart, because it has always conflicted with my head but won and lead me right to where i need to be, so now i finally trust it. And trusting my heart allows me to trust my husband.
However, some people are better off following their heads because they hearts are too much for them and mislead them.
It depends on which you trust more. Which one has lead you to the right places in the past? Go with that one.
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