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writes:I'm 5 months pregnant and I was just diagnosed with the herpes virus. I haven't had sex with anyone else in over two years. I asked my bf if he was with anyone and he confessed and said he received oral sex from someone three months prior to me getting pregnant. Could this have come from him and what shall I do b/c he still cheated on me.
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reader, kody08 +, writes (7 November 2008):
Well yes you could have gotten it from him it is probally the only person you could have gotten it from if you havnt slept with ne one else, now this is kind of a serious std because it will never go away but the cheating situation i would have to say go with your gut instinct weather he is worth it or not is up to you and only you
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Well, even though he recieved oral sex from this woman, it does not mean he got herpes from her, he may have had it for a while because it can lay dormant. As for cheating on you, that was very wrong, I can't tell you wether to stay with him or break up with him. However I can tell you about your baby. As of right now, I'm almost positive your baby does not have the herpes virus, because the herpes virus cannot spread to the sperm, however, if you decide to keep the baby MAKE SURE you have a cecarian section, that is vital to your baby's heath because if not it can get the virus from you. I have no idea about your beiefs and I do not mean ot offend you I just want to make sure you are properly informed. If you decide not to keep the baby you may do one of two things (I'm assuming lol) one adoption, or two abortion. If you decide to put the baby up for adoption then again make sure you have a "c" section. If you decide to have an abortion, I strongly reccomend that you do not have a salene abortion if and only for this reason. Salene abortions are not always effective. At five months you have a much better chance that it will rid you of the baby. at six months or more, I wouldnt consider it because theres a greater chance of the baby's survival and with it SERIOUS birth deffects. I'm so sorry if any of this info offended you in anyway, but I figure its better to be informed than not at all. I'm deeply sorry you contracted herpers, but believe me when I tell you its not the end of the world. Good luck with any chance you make and if you have it I hope its healthy and happy and has ten fingers and toes!!! lol good luck sweetie!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): The herpes virus sometimes can be dormant in a person for years (meaning not active them not having symptoms, etc.) So you could've contracted the virus years ago from someone else. It may have come from him also, but maybe not even because of the woman he had oral sex from but from someone else years ago. Herpes is very complicated in determining where you got it from. And remember everyone, that every cold sore is a form of herpes so be safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008):
Yes, according to this link..it very well could have come from him.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/genital-herpes/DS00179/DSECTION=causes
But you need a doctor's opinion. Right now, you should be under a doctor's care and you need to plan with him, for the safe delivery of this child. Please confer with him.
As to what you should do about your bf's cheating. Only you can decide what needs to be done. If you have a forgiving heart, you can move on from this and stay with him. You and him will be a family now..I suggest you both work hard at ensuring your baby has a Mother and Father, who really and truely love each other.
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