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writes:Hi everyone, I'm 16, I've had a boyfriend for 3 months but I just feel like its not right anymore. How do I break up with him? Do I need to lead up to it- be offhand/busy if he wants to see me, not reply to texts properly etc so he knows its coming... Or just do it out of the blue?I've never been in a relationship before so have no experience. If someone could help me I'd be so grateful!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Never just cut and run. IF you start being busy and blowing him off, he'll be posting here 'My girlfriend of 3 months has changed..." and we will all call you a coward.
The best thing to do is be honest. AND DO IT IN PERSON, but NOT in public (not at school or around other friends)
You just tell him the truth. "billy I really like you, but we are young, and I think we might be making a mistake to exclude dating other folks at this time..."
Don't make that whole "we can still be friends" promise... it never works... just be friendly and civil when you see him.
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reader, R1 +, writes (26 January 2013):
 There is no easy way to break up with someone. Just try to do it as soon as possible and be very honest so he knows there is no chance of you getting back together. Also be respectful and wait a polite amount of time before you meet someone new.
Good luck
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reader, iloveyhoo +, writes (25 January 2013):
 If he really likes you then you shouldnt start giving him bad signs and ignore him and that. You should be honest with him because he'll appreciate it more. Tell him that you need to speak to him about your relationship and maybe do it face to face with him? Definitely not over text though. Tell him you don't feel right and your not sure why but you wanna call things off for a while. You never know he may be able to help you resolve your problem and work things out.. either way if your honest with him he should respect you for that. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013): Open and honest communcation is a skill one can begin at your age. Kindness is so very important. He is the one being dumped and if he's in to you, his heart will be broken. Use "I" statements about how YOU feel. State you're not feeling those loving feelings anymore, but don't trash his personality or character. Be open to hearing his pain without judging him or justifying what your choosing to do. Say what you need to say and offer him the opportunity to say something. You may simple ask him how he feels after you tell him you don't have those special feelings anymore. Thank him for his honesty. Ask if he would like to share one last hug. He may want to know what's wrong with him. Just be honest and remain consistant about not feeling special feelings toward him and tell him you need that for a relationship to work. Good luck!
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