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writes:Hey what's up you awesome guys, and ladies. I hope you people are having a good break from the holidays. Anyway, let's get into the topic. PLEASE NOTE: ONLY Matured People / Experience People answer this. Boy Or Girl. Also, I'm 17, my birthday was like 2 weeks ago :PAlright here it goes. Sometimes in my life, there's something I always wanted. And it is finding that special someone. It's really hard in my society were I live at were people are judgmental, etc. Like sometimes I always try to say to myself that if it comes it comes. But it keeps changing and changing. In addition, if you just want to know what am I am as a person. 17, Filipino :P, Having a Learning Disability (Not the serious type) and yea. Like, I always be myself I don't impress people of not being myself. And that is just bad. I'm always clean, and look after myself. I just don't know why girls don't go after me. Like I have confidence but it's just finding that someone is really hard. Because on what you say could affect you and her. I don't wanna be hurt or anything. I don't have anything to do with suicide or anything. Exactly for the ladies, do you think I'm a type of person you would go out with? Also for the guys, do you think I sound proper or am I just lazy (I use lazy as a bad turn for no confidence). Lastly, is there any other way of finding that special someone in the teenage years?Thanks guys, and beautiful ladies for helping me. I really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart.P.S I hope you people can understand what I typed here.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (20 December 2011):
This may sound typical but: You're still young. You have a lot of great teen years ahead and (if you choose) an amazing college experience down the pike. Girls will come into your life and go, as will friends, and during that period of time it is highly probably that you'll find a girl or two that you'll fall into a relationship with. So be patient, and just focus on being you; develop the hobbies and talents that interest you, go into a field of study you're passionate about, and the rest will fall in line.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2011):
 When I was your age I was running a business making thousands of dollars US a week. I was never very good with the ladies and had my own sort of learning disabilities, with women not being a distraction I was able to fully focus my talents in other more productive areas in areas that made me very wealthy.
Im sure Steve Jobs or Bill gates Or warren Buffet weren't ladie killers in their teens. You need to find your niche live your life... the women will come Look at barrack Obama im pretty certain he was no don Juan back in his day but look at the Guy now and more importantly his wife.
I personally dont believe there's someone for everyone. Its just luck, fate, maybe Gods blessing to find the one person who feels for you the way you feel for them. But you cant base your whole life on finding this person specially at a young age when nothing is certain anyway.
At 17 you need to be building the foundations for your future studying, college etc. Instead of pawning over being single you could be learning the ins and outs of the stock market, you could be changing the world in some way , helping famine victims in a far off land.
The Olsen twins where billionaires by the time they where 17, Mary had already given birth to Christ,Joan of Arc was leading armies across France she was burned at the stake at 19, Jordan Romero summited Mount Everest he was 13.
My point is you gotta live your life see where it takes you maybe the girl of your dreams will fall into your arm maybe not but dreams often become nightmares.
Another thing relationships are not like in the movies. fall in love happily ever etc nope... trilogies do a much better job of showing the realities of relationships then most chick flix. In spiderMan parker gets the girl of his dreams only to get caught up in a love triangle and the other guy who tries to kill him, in the matrix neo falls in love only to have her die, in star wars Anakyin goes postal and kills his wife, In xmen Cyclops love interest Jean Grey goes postal and kills him.
Those are movies but they symbolize the realistic issues of relationships. and Next you Have dear cupid for the many testimonials. Do you even know what you will do when this wonder girl comes into your life are you even ready. Ill refer to the Biblical story of Adam and eve for this. If you notice Adam had a home Eden and a job naming the animals and caretaker of Eden, So The first man had a job and a home before he got the first women.
Read some books sit in on some seminars and learn the art of romance. By he time i had my first Gf it was great a cake walk I had money and time so i could fully appreciate her. The problem arose though when i wanted to make homes(real estate investments) and she wanted to homemake. So it didnt work out in the end because I didnt want to settle down. and she was easily a 9.5 out of 10. But when you no who you are and what you want relationships are much easier to control.
And as for society and their judgments, well unless they can walk on water their judgment is null.
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