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writes:me and ex went out for 2 an half years we were both really in love but we let relationship get boring and she ended it. i have since went with other girls but they dont appeal the same its been 9 months should i fight for her even if she wont talk to me or give up hope? i did mess up by being needy after the break up thats why she wont talk. Reply to this Question
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 I would give her a lot of space, if you were needy and clingy and thats why she wont talk to you i would say to give her a lot of room and distance, try your best to move on and KEEP BUSY so you're not thinking about her all the time. Maybe in the future if there has been no contact and she doesnt feel so smothered she would consider making a fresh start as long as you dont come on too strongly but for now you should just give her the distance she obviously wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): I'm sorry that you have not recovered after the break up, to me this seems a closed chapter. You are currently on bad terms. Maybe you even want to reconciliate for all the wrong reasons. To insist I reckon won't do the trick because it will make you appear needy all over again. I think you need closure and by this I mean you should firstly accept what has happened. You can't beseech, it's unaesthetic. She must be your ex for a reason. While I am not not against dating an ex I can see this relationship is compromised and you can at the most offer your friendship in spite of your past differences and then let go. Speculating on her possible positive response can further disappoint you if this turns out otherwise. At this point it doesn't even matter why she won't talk to you. Your relationship is very impaired and you two didn't have the maturity to part amicably so it seems very hard to continue from where you left off. I would in turn choose to focus on your problems, that you are needy can be an issue that needs more of your attention. Your new relationships may not work because you expect too much from them and maybe compare them to your ex. This is why I think you should let go of the past and what you can't have. All the best.
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reader, NurseBetty85  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Hello,
I know how it feels to want someone back when you
really love them.
But if they don't feel the same, there's no reason to go after them. In your case it has been 9 months.
I'm sorry to say, I think shes not interested anymore.
I know its hard, but you must move on.
Good Luck!
NurseBetty85
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reader, zonks  +, writes (21 January 2009):
in love..never give up..ever..do some grooming..some courting in a fab new way..if you get a chance..some honest n sincere confession about how you feel for your gal may work wonders..n if that does not work try the green monster..best of luck..n in love never give up..god bless :)
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