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writes: Okay so here's the story. I'm 17 and my boyfriend's 18. We've been dating for 10 months now. His last relationship ended about two years ago. Him and his ex were together for two years. At the beginning of our relationship he would always talk about her, which drove me crazy but at that time I didn't want to say anything to him.A couple days ago he told me that he stopped loving his ex girlfriend 7 months into our relationship. He now says that he's over her and loves me, but I don't know if he's telling me the truth. We all go to the same school, and see each other every day. I feel like I can't compete with the relationship that they once had and am considering giving up. What should I do?Thanks alot
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2005): i do agree with the above comment, it being a rebound relationship. But i also started dating a guy who i think at the time was still hung up on his ex , but that was 9 years ago now and we're still as strong as we were when we first met and things are great so it can work out well. If he says he does love you go with your gut instincts and if you belive him and do love him try to make it work and i'm sure he'll make it work as well now that he has realised but make sure he does make you feel like the most important person in the world so no doubts come to your mind. But if your not sure then ask for a break until both of you sort your head out!!
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reader, Mirabell +, writes (1 December 2005):
 It definitely sounds as though he was still in love with her when he started dating you. You know what that makes this--a rebound relationship. You can hope to turn a rebound relationship into a long term sure thing but that would be some kind of urban miracle.
First of all you deserve a guy who isn't thinking about any other girl when he is with you. . .especially not for 7 months of your relationship.
Secondly, you need some space from him so he can figure out if he wants you or not. If he does, he'll find himself hung up on you too. It is a hard situation, but there is no point in dating someone who isn't fully into you.
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