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writes:I am 29 year old working woman, living with my maternal grandparents in Mumbai, India. I and my younger sister have no one else rather than them. I am passionate about dance. Didn’t learn dance because of the circumstances. Now I have joined Kathak class. My grandparents didn’t like it. They said this money is for you but not for wasting like this. I don't feel it is for wasting. I don't think that by this way the money is being wasted as dance is my passion and gives me satisfaction. They took our bank belongings and said that they will give not more than 500/month. They said that you are not allowed to do anything as far as you live in our home. I really don't feel to live with them. I am finding a hostel. One friend of mines agreed to become my local guardian, but some hostel needs parent's no-objection letter. Those which don't require are a bit costly. My mother is dead and my father remarried and have no connection with us. I don't understand what to do. Please help me with your suggestions. What would you do and what should I do under these circumstances?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 First off, why do they feel so strongly against your dance classes? Can you not talk to them about it? You are 29 years old, far too old to still be controlled by anyone. I am sorry if I come across as ignorant, I have almost no knowledge of the customs in India.
But surely you can still talk to them about it. Understand why they feel the way they do and make sure they understand why you love to dance. Dancing may lead you to new opportunities and they simply cannot keep you from reaching your dreams. Try and persuade them that those classes are not a waste and that it is something you love.
If you ARE going to move into a hostel, ensure first that you have a backup plan. Be patient and plan every step so that you are ready for whatever comes your way. But if your Grandparents are all you have left, I think it best to try and salvage it and at least attempt to restore happiness between you all.
I hope that helps.
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