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writes:Sometimes in the past I have found myself in a situation of extreme loneliness. Like not being able to find a friend in the world:(. During those times I found slight comfort in reading or masturbating, but nothing really cured the desire to go out with friends or be in a crowd of like minded ppl. I'm not saying I neeeeeed a bunch of friends to make me happy but I do like ppl around sometimes. The past 6 or 7 years of my life have not been my best. Facing everything from homelessness to geting back on my feet to poverty. I've been through the systems services to ppl in that situation and they don't help. I've had and lost so many jobs and friends along the way. But I'm on my way out. I gots the military in view currently and I'm looking to join in october. So that's that. But that's all just a summary of my life, there isn't enough space on this website to tell it all. So where does my question come in this opening up of the mega nutts? Well, what is one to do when he or she feels alone? When a person is at the bottom of the barrel emotionally?
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reader, Cutigrl24 +, writes (17 August 2009):
Well, I have found myself in many situations where I have lead myself to being lonely. Everyone does it from time to time. WE make mistakes and we learn. I have faced losing my family. I have friends, but I still will never trust them. The best thing to do, is just work on yourself for the time being. When you accomplish what you're striving to do, then you will feel significant on yourself. I can't tell you what to do as far as getting to the top, but I'm sure you are smart enough to figure it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Your going to have friends soon in the military. I've never had difficulties making friends. You just need common interest, could be a sport,religion,a book,same habits. I could talk to someone at borders, same age rang as me, sometimes older like in there 30s. You interduce your self ask what kind of espresso they like, and if the conversation flows, ask for there # before they leave. And if the conversation is dead in the water, go to another person and start talkin. Try not to be totally depressing and bring up things from the past to much, I have things in my past that I dont talk about because its a conversation killer especially for a new friendship. Sugar code your life, mention to people that your going to be going to the military, and that you've had a bad life, if they infasise that they want to hear more, than you can talk about your past. Meeting new friends is eassy, Go to a christain church and meet some people.
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reader, Mr. Adviser +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Your at the bottom when you have 0 friends, 0 family, 0 anyone. Now, I'm sure you have some sort of family. Family are people who will forgive you no matter what. So long as you promise to be good as you can, and try your best not to f up. But I suppose if you don't have a family, you have no friends, no significant other, then yeah I'd stretch to say your at rock bottom.Being at rock bottom is just an epitamy of sh1tty-ness. It is a sign to change your ways, to fix the broken, to start over. It's not necassarily a bad thing. It's a chance for a renewed life. with hard work, and a strong mind, you can be at the top of the barrel in no time.Hang in there kiddo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): 9 years ago, I think I hit the rock bottom of a situation similar to yours. For me since then, listening to Joseph Prince on YouTube, or his website, really bolstered my sense of not 'feeling alone'... and I think it helps me still.You'll definitely be in my prayer that you will find real soul-mates, a nice small tight bunch of guys or girls friends, who are good for you. Not just pals to hang out with, but friends you really enjoy, and who enjoy you...unselfishly. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): There will always be a friend out there for you. Even if you are a shy person, some-one else wont be and will approach you. You have to be in a group of people to meet people. On a course, in a job, through family or attending meetings,etc. When you have changes in life, yes, you can be lonely until the next work environment or course occurs. Just stay in the same place at least 6 months before you give up. Circulate to other places.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (16 August 2009):
 AWww you no whats sweet theres a young lady who posted on here saying basically the same thing maybe you can find her and you two might hit it off.
after you join the millitary get shipped to a warzone i think being lonely will be the last of your problems, if your a virgin you might want to get some before you go.
have you ever been to college great place to spend money and make freinds.
Look the bottom line s after a certain age you make few freinds just aquintences everybody is doing there own thing has there own family and careers to think about.
Its difficult to start meeting people where to begin who knows freinds are usually forged from necessity not a lonely guy walking up asking for a hug.
But its natural to want human companionship ship no one wants to be alone, you can volunteer be a big brother or sister what ever floats your boat.
Ill tell you what drop me a line we can be friends if you want. but im only fwb with chicks.
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