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writes:my ex dumped me on news years eve just gone, but on that same day I found out I was pregnant, i told him and he just put the phone down on me. I was pretty devestated. I was 11 weeks pregnant at this point and I wanted to keep my baby, I graduate Uni thsi year as a Teacher, so I new it was going to be a tough year. At 22 weeks i went into prem labour, they managed to stop it but at 24 weeks I had my little girl. Obviouly being so premature she is in NICU so she needs all the love and care in the world which she gets from myself and my family. But her father wants nothing todo with her. Shes 14 weeks old now and he has never met her. My exes father rang me up out of the blue to say neither him or his family want anything todo with my little girl. All I get from from people is why isnt her father around she needs him etc, I personaly think he wants to be a daddy to her, he was a lovely kind person and I cant imagine him being so heartless, I didnt think it would be in his nature. I dont realy know what todo, I feel guilty on my daughter as her dad isnt around, and I just want my little girl to be ok, I want him to be there for her, but I dont know if to just leave it??? or do something. I actually dont kno what todo for the best. Any advice would be lovely :) thanyou ...
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reader, pure shade 5  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 i am sorry but that dude sounds like a jerk he helped make that kid and he should be there for it idc how old u are u got to take respoinciblity for ur actions...heck i am right now having my twins on the 18 of july few days from now but anyways ya sorry but he is a realy jerk
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reader, monica76 +, writes (18 June 2009):
First of all Congratulations on your new baby girl and on graduating. I'm really sorry for what you are going thru. I can honestly say I understand becuase I"ve been there. When I was 3 months pregnate my boyfriend disappeared and contacted me only after getting served with child support papers. He denied her and we went as far as taking a paternity test. My daughter was about 2 years old when he decieded he wanted to be a Dad after being a Single parent (yes it's hard but rewarding) I forgave him and we tried to be a family . But it was HELL he never really put in his share of responsibility as a dad / boyfriend/ or husband. To make a long story short 10 years later he hooked up with one of my friends and abandon us again. He has not seen, asked or paid Child support in over 8 months. Unfortunately he never cared because there was never that father /daughter bond . Now, again it's up to me to mend my daughter's heart. I know it's so much easier said than done. But you can't force him to care or love her if it's just not in him. He might come around or not but regardless stay STRONG you are a beautiful, smart, strong women and you need to be the BEST role model for your daughter. ALong the way you will meet a GREAT man that will allow you to form a family. Do not wait for him to change. Think of today and tommorrow your daughter needs you. Take care and I wish you the best I KNOW you will do the right thing.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (17 June 2009):
 maybe his father is just angry and upset about the whole situation and maybe your ex is still in shock over the whole thing. he probably does care but his dad maybe disappointed in him and feels he doesn't need to be tied down with a little baby in his life.
i reckon once the baby will be fine and i'm sure she will be he'll come around to the idea or if he sees you he'll come over and say hello.
it's probably his dad is mad at him for getting your pregnant and not taking precautions otherswise if it is just him then he's a heartless p***k and doesn't deserve anyone or to even have such a precious thing as a baby girl!
Hope thi helps hun :)
she'll be fine keep me updated on how she gets on :) x x x x
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