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*az89
writes:When I was 15 years old I had a boyfriend, who i was with for 2 years. We never argued and were like best mates. We did our last year of school together and first year of college. After I finished college I started working full time, while my boyfriend remained at college for another year. I ended the relationship out of the blue. I cant really explain why. I guess i felt like i was growing up and getting on with things more and he was happy just plodding along at college. Anyway I started seeing someone else, who i remained with again for another 2 years. He treated me bad and for some reason I still stayed with him. We ended up living together and getting engaged. Anyway after a while I realised this relatioship wasnt what I wanted anymore. I often thought about why I'd split up with my ex, because I still though about him alot. The relationship ended anyway, and when my ex heard he got back I touch with me. After alot of talking we both decided that we wanted to give things another go. But after only about a week he changed his mind. He text me saying that he'd been enjoying playing the field and wasnt ready for another relationship after all. I was gutted, but had to accept it. We was still having sex though, every now and again. But he made it clear it was just sex. I ended up falling pregnant. I got in touch with him and he said he'd support me what ever I wanted to do. After he told me that I couldnt get in touch with him again, his phone had been cut off. I did what I thought was best and had a termination. A couple of months later I went to the pub that he worked at for a drink. By the end of the night there was just me him and his best mate there. After he shut up the pub he said why didn’t we all go back to his for a drink, so we did. After a few drinks it was time to go home. First we walked to his mate’s house and dropped him off. Then, he offered to walk me home. Whilst walking home we got talking about our past, and about the termination. He admitted to me that he still had feelings for me and didn’t mean what he said when he’d said he was enjoying playing the field. He told me he only said this because he wanted to protect himself and didn’t want me to hurt him again. He told me that if I’d told him I was going to keep the baby he would have been ecstatic. He said he’d never got over me. In the end after talking and tears we both agreed to give it another go but to take things slow. He asked me to go back to his with him. But I said I didn’t want it just be about sex. He said it won’t be and that we can just get into bed and cuddle. We got back to his and got into bed. We did end up having sex but it wasn’t just sex. We did talk and cuddle, etc. the next day I woke up and didn’t know how to feel, I didn’t know if he meant what he’d said the night before because he’d been drinking. So I got dressed and left. I thinking he was expecting me to give hi a kiss good bye, but I didn’t I left. When I got home I text him and asked him if he still meant what he’d said the night before. He told me he wouldn’t have said it if he didn’t, I was so happy. He asked me to go round his on Wednesday night (tonight). When he was texting he seemed a bit distant, so I asked him if he’d changed his mind and he said no we’re just taking things slow. This was fine! He was a bit stressed because of work problems etc, so I sent him a text on Tuesday saying “you still on for tomorrow night, I can think of a few ways to de-stress you”, he replied “yeah still on for tomorrow, but nothing like that will be happening, taking things slow”. I just find this a bit odd because we’d been sleeping together before. I’ve asked a friend and she said maybe he’s trying to push you to see how far you willing to wait and that, in case you leave him again. I’m not sure. Any advice?? And how do we take things slow after our history together?
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