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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat about a threesome with 2 strangers? Is that a fantasy turned into a nightmare?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Some fantasies are quite harmless. But adding others into your relationship, undoubtedly carries risks. Because two people can react very differently to the same situation. And you cant predict the outcome. For years, a married friend of mine, indulged her husbands porn habit to keep things spicy. Even though it gave her a complex about her small attributes. He preferred porn featuring well endowed women. Things progressed to swinging when the porn was no longer enough for him. My friend hated it and only participated once. Her husband loved it and resents that she wont go again. So hes taken to visiting a prostitute regularly instead. His character has changed beyond recognition. He has told my friend he still loves her but shes no longer "enough" for him. She is a broken woman and feels its all her fault. If you do want to carry out a fantasy that involves introducing others. Make absolutely sure the relationship is expendable if the worst happens. Otherwise. Dont do it.
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reader, heart-shaped-balloon +, writes (5 October 2010):
 For a lot of people, yes. Threesomes ruin MANY relationships. Many fantasies can cause bad personality changes, or sexual depravity if acted upon too often. Many of them are very safe to try out and at the most might get you in a little awkward trouble that you can laugh off later. As long as they aren't illegal and harmful (rape, bestiality, sexual assault of a child, self mutilation, etc) then they are often rather safe.
Some can ultimately destroy or alter your relationship with the other individual permanently, so be careful. If they don't approve of a fetish, don't push it on them. Even if they are just unsure, be careful. They can cause resentment, disgust, etc and land you alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have been told that sexual fantasies,i.e. threesomes, group sex, are better left as fantasies. That the actual event is not anything like you imagined it was going to be. Like having a threesome with your spouse and another person. There is jealousy, shame and problems. I am not talking about inflicting harm on anyone, or committing a crime. Anybody want to share their experience?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 It is hard to say not knowing the fantasy but what can be said is that a fantasy which involves anything illegal, harmfull to yourself or others or will inflic harm in anyway should not be carried out!
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