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writes:My parents are normally pretty open minded and supportive of what I do, I am 23 yrs old and have been dating Matt(25) for almost 4 months now. He is the leader singer in a band, has over come an addition as a teenager and has been clean ever since. He also works part time as an accountant. Most of my family and friends were shocked when we started dating because they said he wasn't my "typical type" as in looks. He has long hair and SEVERAL tatoos and body/facial piercing. He may not be the normal look I go for but he is the sweetest guy I think I have ever met, and he treats me WONDERFUL but my family isn't nice to him because of his looks. My dad hardly speaks to him when he comes over. I know I don't need their permission to date him btu I would love for them to at list make an effort to get to know him. How can I ge tthem to look past his looks and life style to see how great of a guy he is. Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 You can´t judge a book by its cover.
There is actually a song by that name!!
His band needs to cover that one.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (28 December 2009):
If he really cares about you then when he comes over to your house he can make an attempt to tidy himself up. Maybe remove a few of the piercings and wear something that covers the tatoos and brush/ tie his hair back. Your parents will see this as his attempt to respect them in THEIR house. Ofcourse manners are essential (eg. Proper handshake hello rather than hands in pockets whatup y'all). As much as we hate it all these things do matter. As time goes by and they learn how sweet he is then he can loosen up a bit more and maybe even have cocktails with your dad telling him about what this/that tatoo means!.
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reader, Anisa  +, writes (28 December 2009):
Act as if you do not care.. Don't go round there as much and soon they will be running after you saying that they are sorry ect.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 Give your family a little more time to adjust and getting over the shock. Then, why not go out together? All go out to dinner, or something fun like bowling? Create a situation where they have to get to know him. Make sure he wears something more modest- baby steps. Let them get to overcome their judgments but find patience to give them the time they'll need to do so. Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): you need to sit down with them and tell them that you love him and that it doesn't matter how he looks it about how he treats you and makes you feel and that you would be grateful if they could try to make an effort to get to know him. if they don't not worry as long as he is good to you and you love him what else happens it shouldnt affect the two of you
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