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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have had some problems with my boyfriend which resulted in him asking me to leave our home last year, at this time he also quit his degree course which he was doing well at, and enjoying.Since then we have re-kindled our relationship, and things are working well, we have both realised where we went wrong and made an effort to solve them and our relationship is a million times better than it ever was, however he is currently without a job.we have been taking things slow since we got back together but moving back in together has been mentioned and i really love this man and want it to work.However my family have made it clear following his previous actions that should this happen they will not be happy at all, because my boyfriend currently has no direction. (He has flitted in and out of jobs as long as i have known him and currently doesnt have one at all).I couldn't cope with loosing my family, but i love this man as well, and although there is no immediate plans to take it up a notch it is going to happen at some point and I dont know how to handle this. I have not told my boyfriend how my family feels and I dont know whether I should for fear it will cause even more problems than is needed, or whether i should just simply 'wait and see' if anyone has been in a similar situation or simply has a way to handle this i would really appreicate it.
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 As an outsider, it seems that he wants you to take care of him. He doesn't have a job, so (I assume) the bills will fall on you. I think you should continue to date him, but don't move in for awhile.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
Your family are giving you a big warning. Think very, very carefully. He is an ex, so it wasn't working before. It's not looking good now either, since he doesn't seem to have any direction. This might be a time to think with your head, not your heart. He has no direction, and doesn't seem to ever have had a direction. At this time, that's not so bad. But when it comes to children, living together and a future, it's really bad. You do not want to end up living with someone who has no direction and wastes your time, only to end up broken up with a broken heart and all your family standing there saying 'we told you so'. Lots of people have made the mistake of not listening. I will second your family, and say that this is a bad idea. A man without direction isn't good at all. Please think.
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