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writes:So I came across this sugar daddy site [website blanked in case this is spam] a few months ago and out of curiosity I joined. I had a good laugh at it at first, but then I thought ... since I'm single ... it may not be so bad finding a Sugar Daddy who would pamper me. Well, I joined and I met this guy who is about 15 years older than me. At first, it was just casual dating ... we sort of made it clear up front we were not going to get serious and it would be sort of an agreed upon arrangement. He'd buy me gifts and take me on weekend trips and spas. The problem is we have been seeing each other for about 8 weeks now, and I feel myself falling in love with him.I know we had an agreement not to get into the emotional mess of falling in love, but I can't help how I feel. What should I do? Should I muster up enough courage to tell him, and risk losing him forever? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): HI,if you tell this guy how your feeling do you think things are going to stay the same?if he`s married your actually his mistress and if not he truly is your sugar daddy both of which have extra benefits are you prepared to loose it all?
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 ohhh thats hit the rocks, but if he isnt married then i dont see a problem in telling him. Tell him how you feel and he may even feel the same way. but like the others have said if hes married i wouldnt even go there.
hope this helps x
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reader, penta +, writes (12 April 2007):
 You might feel him out first -- "So how is our arrangement working for you?" This might be perfect for him -- none of the mess. He might also open up to you.
If he's married, I agree with eyeswideopen, run for the hills.
If he's not, however, stop and think why he is older and not looking for a relationship? Why would he rather pay for a woman's time without the emotions? Maybe he's set in his ways and would be uncomfortable if you broke your no-emotionional-mess agreement.
But you honestly have nothing to lose; the last thing you want is to fall for an emotionally unavailable man. If you level with him and he leaves, he'll be doing you a favor in the long run. But he might be happy with what you say and your relationship would grow.
If he's not married, tell him. Fingers crossed for you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 April 2007):
 If he isn't married, I'd tell him. If he is married I'd drop him like a hot potato.
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