Ex and I slept together but he says he can't offer me a relationship right now

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello, I split up with S in Dec 2010 i just didnt feel close to him despite me loving him he was so hard to know?, hes not good at showing his feelings, we remained friends and went out as friends but i just didnt think he wanted a relationship with me again, he neve showed any signs.. 4 months later i dated someone else (B), who although i didnt have as strong feelings he was lovely and was kind to me - we split up in the end. In Dec 2011 i began talking to S again (have never gone back with ex's so this is all weird to me) he told me how upset he was when he heard i was seeing someone else, then one friend even told me how he cried over me - but i never knew and because of how distant he was i would have never thought he would care so much... so we are friends now, i have told him how much i miss him and that i would like us to get back together - he says he spend a year getting over me and although he loves me he needs time.. he says we are just freinds.. we did sleep together and i thought things were back on track but then he says we are 'just friends' he cant offer me a relationship right now.. i said i'd keep out of his way but then he said no i want us to still spend time together.. now i know he was gutted but we have been seeing each other twice a week since early december and i just dont know what to do - should i carry on or move on ?? i want us to get back together and it be bigger and better but we arent even at square one after 3 months ??? i'm 37 and want to be happy and in love with someone who loves me ???

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