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writes:well, my ex-teacher is about 20 years older than me... we always had a good relationship, ever since my dad died he has been there for me. he had a reputation of being a 'pervert', but he's not one of those creeps because he's really handsome (he looks something like Ronnie from Jersey Shore). He's buff, spikey hair, and his personality is off the hook!well, after the year ended, and it was summer... and then we got back to school, and he wasnt there... i was heartbroken. He told my other teacher to give me his email and write to him. The thing is that...i dont know what he wants from me? what is he looking for; what relationship does he want? he's super sexy, and i had BIG feeling for him, he would always touch me either on my arm or shoulder, and he would always hug me, he even kissed me on the cheek a few times after i was depressed after my father dying.but you have to understand, he did not do that only out of pity, he did care for me...we would also fight alot... it was mostly because he didn't approve of my boyfriend (he was 5years older than me), he told me that i shouldn't date him, and no man should abuse a woman... he was verry verry jealous.again....what sort of relationship does he want from me?...
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reader, SharksTooth  +, writes (7 November 2010):
Be careful and just ensure that your feelings for him aren't based upon the fact he was there for you at a difficult time.
You could ask over and over what he wants, but you seem to be curious, so email him. If you find what he wants isn't what you wanted then just don't take it any further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): As you are 18... I don't see what's to stop you. I mean, he's no longer in a position of power over you, and as such no law is currently in place to prevent you from forming any form of relationship if you both choose to.That said, these are waters to tread most carefully. And you must indeed pay attention to his reputation as something along the line has caused it to occur.It may be the rep is completely unfounded, as most reputations and rumours are, but you must still tread carefully.Unlike some of the others, your two ages and the difference between them do not bother me. Almost all relationships today have differences of at least three years, and a great deal have more. My own Grandparents were ten years apart and they were married and in love until they day my grandmother died. She was in her 80's.But times have changed and above all you must exercise caution in whatever relationships you find yourself in.Flynn 24
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 No good can come from contacting him.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Just because he is "pretty" does not make him a nice, decent man. Looks have absolutely nothing to do with personality, or stop perverts from preying on innocent kids.
"he had a reputation of being a 'pervert', but he's not one of those creeps because he's really handsome (he looks something like Ronnie from Jersey Shore). He's buff, spikey hair, and his personality is off the hook!"
If he has a reputation, you can assume he is. Reputations dont happen for nothing most of the time. What makes a creep? The best creeps are the ones that are not suspected, because they are cute, funny, and the girls fall for them easily. They are gentlemen and above suspicion. WRONG.
Stay well clear. He is an ex teacher, and far too old for you. This man is trouble. How many other girls do you think he has flirted with, kissed and touched? He took advantage of a vulnerable girl. He didnt care for you, he was seeing how far he could get.
Teachers DO NOT kiss their pupils - in ANY situation whilst on duty at school. That is way out of line, and shows total lack of respect for the laws, and the teaching profession.
What do you want from him? A relationship? WHy? If you dont want anything from him, keep well away. Nothing good will come from it.
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