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writes:why did my ex husband say he wanted to get back with me,after a year then i said give me abit of time to think,and i said ok lets give it ago and he said its to late he has found someone else and wants to be with her.the new women told me she was no threat,but she still hangs out with him after she knows what he has done to me,and he is going round telling people in the street it was me who said about getting back together and its making me look a fool.i have had to see a councilor because of this,i'm trying to get through it,but it isnt going out of my head and its been 7 weeks since all this has happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Hun, it sounds to me, that he always had her in the background all along, waiting. Some women like her are cling-ons, waiting until the man they have an interest in, makes a decision. Now,. if you live in a small community where everyone knows each other's business, it sounds like he did this just to save his own reputation. It was easier to tell people "I tried to get back together with my wife, but she didn't respond".
I know it's tough to feel hurt at what he did...the important thing is to think about now, what sort of future you want and can imagine for yourself. I am pleased to hear that you are getting counseling as it appears you are pretty focused on what people think of you and whether they approve or not of how you and your hubby conduct your marriage. This is a sign of low self-esteem in you and that needs to be addressed in order to gain some strength and balance in your life, and not allow this to get to you. So keep working on that, dear and say to yourself, that you simply did not deserve to stay with a husband who obviously did not respect you. You will heal from this and you will be stronger. Just don't worry what others think of you...Keep your head high, hun. Take care and good luck.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Listen Honey,
You are certainly not a fool. And I presume this idiot you were married too was around the same age as you. He should grow up a bit dont you think?.
Just because you didnt jump to a decision straight away, he imediatly finds someone else, and then tells you its to late. God he must have been desparate to get you back and prove he had changed.
Sorry darling, but for whatever reason you split with this man in the first place, it sounds to me like it was a good one.
Dont worry about what he says about you, just move on with your life, and find a guy that will make you happy. This one wont.
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (24 October 2007):
 heya hun x
it seems to me that the EX husband is seeking attention at present and wishes to be in the lime light , he will stoop to the lowest just to do so
what ever the reason he did what he did saying that he want to get with you and then says it's to late , Never fall for him again
i know a few young ladies who just keep going back
Do not fall for him again hun x
as for him spreading things what can you do ?
you need to get all your freinds with you , people you can fall back on
like i said he is attention seeking , do not give him that attention he is begging for
just get on with your life as if he is non existent , dont be nasty to him
just treat him as the person you see in the town you don't know
when you have got on with your life and found somebody new he will just fade away
if you are worried about him spreading it in the street then dont , why do the people out on the streets matter?
the only people who matter are freinds and family
love + light hun
feel free to mail me by my profile
¬chris¬ x
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (24 October 2007):
heya hun x
it seems to me that the EX husband is seeking attention at present and wishes to be in the lime light , he will stoop to the lowest just to do so
what ever the reason he did what he did saying that he want to get with you and then says it's to late , Never fall for him again
i know a few young ladies who just keep going back
Do not fall for him again hun x
as for him spreading things what can you do ?
you need to get all your freinds with you , people you can fall back on
like i said he is attention seeking , do not give him that attention he is begging for
just get on with your life as if he is non existent , dont be nasty to him
just treat him as the person you see in the town you don't know
when you have got on with your life and found somebody new he will just fade away
if you are worried about him spreading it in the street then dont , why do the people out on the streets matter?
the only people who matter are freinds and family
love + light hun
feel free to mail me by my profile
¬chris¬ x
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 I am glad you are seeing someone. Your ex sounds like the fool. It may not appear so to you but when people go around bad mouthing other people, we are not so naive as to sort out the truth. I believe he is the one looking like the fool. Besides, what is so foolish about a decent ex wanting to work things out. It's actually honorable. What would you think if one of your friends came up to you and said, "my ex wanted to get back together but I found this new person." Don't you think you would think he kind of looked like a cad? In life we have a choice to take the high road. We may be hurt more often but you can also go to sleep knowing you took the high road. Heal well and take care.
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