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writes:My ex was everything I ever wanted, and we fit together perfectly. And yet after 3 and a half years it falls apart. It had been going badly for a couple of months, and there were times when i completely did not trust him. And it was all over one particular girl, and guess what, the day after we split up they were together... Lets say shocked and devastated were an understatement.Since spliting up we tried to remain friends but we kept getting into arguements and ended up attempting not to talk. After about a week we chose to meet up and everything was fine. We didnt talk about his new girlfriend or now I was coping or anything, just friendly. After that we started meeting each other more regularly and things began to happen and he cheated on his new girlfriend, more than once...We ended up not talking to each other again for about two weeks and a couple of days ago we meet at a social thing with mutual friends. Everything was fine like we were past it but then we decided to meet up again, and we ended right back where we were. He says he has told her the truth now and yet she supposedly has accepted it. He told her today and she is willing to stay there tonight knowing i was there yesterday? I dont know why i keep going back, i feel addicted to him, and i have told him no and it is not all on his terms, what i want to know is how can i stop this. I dont feel bad for doing what i am doing, and that is something i cannot explain, i usually feel guilty over squishing a spider let alone hurting someone... I know i am the one who will end up hurt the most in the end, so how do i stop? Please
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reader, absolutelyinsane  +, writes (13 November 2010):
I am in exactly the same situation. It hurts. And people say "move on, get him out of your life." But it is definitely easier said than done. But I guess, it's all we can really do. There's a line. And "love" can make people blind. Think about the damage you are causing to yourself, to his new girl and even to him. He is getting what he wants from you. That's all there is to it. I know it hurts. Wish you all the best.
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