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writes:Hello!I am just beginning to date a new man (5 dates, its still early days and not yet 'official' in terms of being classed as bf/gf).He is a total sweetie, and a real gentleman, I really couldnt wish for a nicer man. I really do like him, a lot!But I have a question... whenever I see him, he always gets an erection. Literally, as soon as I am in his company, wham... its there. Even if I dont touch him. This is not something I have experienced before (mainly experienced men who found it difficult or just didnt find me attractive) and I don't know what to think about it. Could this be the result of me, that he finds me attractive or just the fact that I am a woman (I could be anyone) and close to him? I guess im asking all the men out there... do you know why this happens and what provokes it? He is 32, so not a teenage boy any more. An insight into the male mind and body would be great!
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reader, deepgemini +, writes (26 October 2011):
 Well I would be flattered if that were me lol! He obviously likes you quite a lot... You could use this as a gauge for his level of interest ;-)) Clearly you have chemistry and everyone has their own levels but your right to hold off and develop the relationship slowly.
Btw I once met a guy that couldn't seem to control his hip action... he sat there talking to me and just couldnt sit still because he apparently liked me so much... was flattering but rather off putting lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for all your answers! It has certainly eased my mind a little. As this is such a new relationship, I admit to have been a little worried about how he actually feels and if what I was seeing was just because he is horny and near a woman or if he really does like me.
I dont want to ask him for fear of either looking pushy and scaring or just making myself look silly.....
@Advice_man - I actually like it, makes me feel desirable, altho it is becoming increasingly difficult not to jump on him! My previous experience has all been with men who really were not that bothered or interested, so this is a whole new thing for me.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (24 October 2011):
 Perhaps I've forgotten a few things about being very young and horny, or maybe an older man develops quite a degree of control. In truth, I do recall some spontaneous arousal at times, but never on a regular basis as described. One thing I do remember is that strong erections without release can be painful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2011): My husband gets it all the time around me as well. It just means he is VERY attracted to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): Nothing unusual about that. At that age I would have to work to keep from getting hard if a woman and I found each other mutually attractive.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (23 October 2011):
Well, I think you can take it as a sure sign that he likes you. This happens, and it can be made difficult to avoid if hes got tight trousers, needs to pee, or hasn't exercised his friend recently. I wouldn't read anything negative into it. I remember this happening. You don't sound so old fashioned if you are already giving his trousers so much attention. Lol :)
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (23 October 2011):
 It is a scientific fact that sex hits the back of a mans brain every 52 seconds.
I am a women so i don't have an insight to the male mind or anything.
But do you reckon he might like maybe be fantascising about you and him when hes round yours and thats why he gets an errection? that could be one reason.
I doubt he just gets an erection because he thinks your attractive as i am sure most men need abit more of a boost to get things working.
The only thing i can suggest is that he could be fantisciseing about you when hes with you and that could be the cause of him getting abit "over excited".
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (23 October 2011):
 That’s definitely a sign that he finds you attractive and also that probably he hasn’t had sex for a while. After all you are saying that he is a sweetie and a gentlemen, he doesn’t sound like a sex maniac or something. How did you feel about this? Were you offended or flattered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDoubleM.... it is quite obvious... without being crude, it is very visible in his trousers!Often when I first see him, everything is normal, 20 mins later... there it is! I am not complaining, its just I have never experienced this before. He has even admitted this to me, saying as soon as I walked thru the door he got an erection. At present we have only hugged, kissed and a small amount of touching. No *full on* sex yet (I am a bit old fashioned in that respect).I guess im just interested in other male opinions having never seen this reaction before! Its a rather new experience! :-D
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 October 2011):
Well, I cannot recall ever getting an erection quite so easily, at least not without some kind of sexual talk, activity or visual stimulation. How do you know that is happening?
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