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writes:there's this guy... let's say i had a "thing" with him kinda sorta. but he really used me, and i knew it. well one time he admitted that he had feelings for me but anyways, i really miss him. it's all screwed up now because of things and i hate it so much. whenever he'd want "stuff" from me he would call me up. and i don't want it to be like that.. one night he texted me randomly and said we needed to talk.. i said 'well you really hurt me so....' and he was liek yeah that's why we need to talk. but we never did talk about it. which kinda made me sad.. but anyways after that i've said hi to him at school and stuff a few times. but now it's nothing at all. like in the hallways he won't even look at me. and i don't look at him. but i always look back when he walks by and he still doesn't look. i get so sad.. i really miss him.... he's had a gf all this time though. should i just try to forget about him and move on? it's so hard to do, i've been trying but everytime i see him i get so depressed and stuff.. so what do i do about that? or should i try and talk to him? or will i just sound annoying to him? thanks if you can help :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys so much, loveee
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (10 May 2008):
The short answer is to enjoy your life! If you can, put him on the "back burner", be open to other boy's approaches, or even approaching them. Figure that he's got a girlfriend for now, and you don't want to break something up unless you are going to really be there for someone until THEY decide to leave - that's my ethics, anyway. If he approaches you, you can be open to it, on YOUR terms. That starts with RESPECT.Expect something more from anyone than just a series of texts. A real conversation, a real date, more than just texted "feelings". Take it slow for now, since you need to keep any relationship honest and fair. If a guy is getting more than he's giving, or you are, even it up a bit. If you're not being fair, one of you is a user and needs to give a bit more. And if you don't feel good about it, slow things down until it's comfortable. Look in the mirror and love yourself every day - then think about sharing the love.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): I think for now you should just get on with your life, this guy obviously isn't treating the respect that you need so just ignore him for awhile until you can get over him fully, sometimes when walking down the hallways just don't look at people, well i usually just sort of look straight ahead to wherever i'm going, and i don't really see people when they say hi...which is bad for me...but in this case just look straight ahead..because your eyes are placed at the front to look ahead, not behind.If he does txt you again before you've gotten over him, ignore his txt, but if you have fully healed, and he ask to talk about how he hurt you, make sure he sticks to what he's talking about, if not ignore...well thats what i would do anywayz.. goodluck!!
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