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writes: My boyfriend is 8 years older than me and we just started a long distance relationship about 5 months ago. We visit each other every month taking turns and everything has been great. When we are apart he would call up to 4 times or more a day and recently (about a week or so ago) he just stopped calling all together. I dont know what changed things. I just really dont undertsnad what happened. When i call he doesnt pick up and he'll call once in a while and when i brought up the fact that he hasnt been calling we got into a huge fight. Now im lucky to get a phone call or if he even picks up my calls. I dont get it. Is it commitment issues or...I just dont know. Help, please. Thanks
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (28 April 2006):
 He might be starting to have a life- outside of you and the phone. Wait untill he calls again and ask him what the problem is. good luckRobinaka advice gurl
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): I do agree with the advice you have been given, wholeheartedly. It's only been 5 months..and in that time, one cannot expect a full committment from any guy. Let this one go, dear. You are/were emotionally involved with a man you spend one time per month with. Although you were chatting it up a lot and were staying in contact, you really knew nothing about him except what he is willing to tell you or the snippets of his life you experienced when you went into his world. Online/long distance relationships take great efforts and much dedication to making it work. The trust and committment for both people, has to be in place like no other. It does sound like he has moved on and lost interest. Men love communicating with their love interests. It's just the way they are. When a guy's daily communications habits change like this, it usually means something is wrong. This is a red flag. Like the rest of us, you want a deep and rewarding relationship and I can't blame you. You aren't going to get it with this guy. He's not committed to making it work or he would be calling you, all the time. Stop contacting him and recover from this. If he does start contacting you again, I would really be wary. It could mean the 'other' love interest didn't pan out. Just remember, there is absolutely no reason with the electronic means of communication out there, (e-mail, texting, phones) for him to not have contacted you. Face this and be strong. Good luck and my heart goes out to you.
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Sounds like something eles had his attention. I would definately roll up on him and find out what it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): It takes a lot of commitment to have a long distance relationship and his change in behaviour is a very worrying sign.
If he won't talk about his change in behaviour I would treat that as a sign that he is hiding something from you.
You're only 5 months in to a relationship, and you can't even see each other to talk about what's wrong. He's ignoring you, and arguing with you when you are trying to find out what's wrong. I would give it another go trying to sort things out, and if he won't, you know what to do.
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