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writes:I like a guy and he says he likes me too...we have known each other for five years..but whenever we do fight he yells back and is never patient or understanding...he is extremely stubborn and likes it his way always...after every fight he goes out to clubs and dances with other girls he knows...and I have seen pictures of him and other women....this has happened atleast three times now..and then after a week or so..he comes back and says he is sorry and will try to make up for what he did...what shud i do? I don't want to let him keep hurting me with his childish behaviour Reply to this Question
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 hey,
why do you forgive him so easly?when you already know that he is gonna go do it again!
he did it once he will do it twice don't expect him to change!
so dump even if you love him because no good will come from him! if you stay with him, it will hurt you more when you breakup! and you already know there is no futur wth him . stop waisting your time with him and find yourself a real man who respects you.
good luck byeXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): The abuser of the day. He is clearly manipulating you. This guy is a narcissist who's in need of constant admiration to maintain his self esteem. I'm sure he was hurt by his parents as a child.
My ex used to be completely stubborn and egocentric too.
My ex bf used to meet new women at the internet when mad at me. He said it was to keep his ego up. When he started doing that I dumped him (and it didn't matter I still loved him)
This guy lost respect for you a long time ago. Now tell me something Why is it that this idiot thinks you are going to take him back no matter what he does? That's the way ALL abusers behave. Abusing, repenting, everything back to normal until their next tantrum, abusing, repenting, everything back to normal until their next tantrum etc. Women marry them and they wonder for the rest of their lives why they aren't happy.
Don't expect him to change. I'm sure he has you all confused because at the beginning he was such a great man. That's what every abuser does too. They come in sheeps' skin and later they manifest the wolf taht lives in them.
I say leave him and never look back. It'll be difficult and he'll try to keep you from doing it but your deserve better. If you really respect yourself and have some self esteem leave him and never look back.
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