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writes:every mornin i wake up gets harder and harder for me i am suffering from depression but i cant afford the therapy... everyone mornin i get up and apologize to myself and the guy im in love with ( even tho he doesnt know) i apologize for not being pefect... whats wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 You can't control who you're attracted to.. Lots of people go through the same thing. They find themselves attracted to someone they know they shouldn't be. Being attracted to him is not a crime but if you end up getting together, you are setting yourself up for pain anbd you know it before hand.
Stop beating yourself up about it though. Maybe you should go out and try and meet new people or something... Talk to you're friends. You're likely to find someone who's been through the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe knows i like him... but i know i shouldnt hes a cheater so i know its not really right to even like him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): Go and see your doctor and ask for free therapy, which is available. There are also helplines you can ring. Friends and relatives you can talk to. Try also to get some exercise and out in the daytime while it is light.
Nobody is perfect. You could do some work on your self esteem by reading up on it on the internet or from books from the library.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 November 2009):
I would start by telling your boyfriend. You need to tell someone you feel this way, so someone can at least understand and just be there for you. It's difficult if you're depressed and nobody knows, because it can seem as if you're alone. Start by telling him how you feel. Also, the other posts below are right. Nobody is perfect, so stop trying to be perfect and start trying to accept yourself. You're not a bad person, and you need to know that. But please make sure you at least tell your boyfriend how you feel.
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reader, shnookims +, writes (1 November 2009):
If you can't afford therapy or a doctor, I suggest finding someone you can trust and talking to them about how your feeling. Someone you can confide in, who wont judge and will be supportive, may be what you need.
No one's perfect and you can't control who you love. The point is you still do get up and you're looking for help. That's a good start.
Good luck
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