Childhood sweethearts and now we're together, but he says he needs to be alone.

A female age 51-59, *elonchops writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. We were childhood sweethearts over 20 years ago. Got back together when both our marriages crumbled (both our partners had affairs). His wife left him in Jan of this year, divorced by June. My divorce is still ongoing. We have been so happy together but just lately (past month) he's had real mood swings happy one minute really down the next. On Saturday he told me that as much as he loved me he wanted to be on his own. Says its nothing ive done wrong but he feels like something isnt right in his head and hes got to work it out, but he doesnt know how long it will take. He is so mixed up its ripping me apart not being able to comfort and help him. I know that he is extremely bitter towards his wife and her boyfriend and has had real trouble "letting go" of these feelings. I am so so scared ive lost him. Any advice would be helpful. He spoken to our friends, who support both of us but he cant explain to them how he feels because he says he doesnt know.

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