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writes:Hi,Is he getting bored of me and is just staying with me for the sake of it?I'm 16 years old and have been with by boyfriend nearly 8 months now, although he is a year younger. When we first got together everything seemed absolutely perfect and amazing, we looked forward to seeing each other all the time and he used to love hearing my voice on the phone. For some reason, now things just don't seem right and it's really getting me down. Like sometimes, I feel like we still belong together, but it doesn't feel the same because of how he talks to me and how he acts around me. I don't know if it's just me being paranoid but he doesn't seem to be treating me as special as he used to and I feel that sometimes he is bored of me?I am starting to get upset quite regularly round him now because of small things he comes out with that make me think he doesn't like me as much. For example, I joke about something but he thinks I'm in a stress with him and then he goes into a mardy and when I try to sort things out he's not interested. At one point when we had a small argument which gradually built up tension and made it into a big deal. When we were in his room and he got angry he started saying how he doesn't want to be with me anymore and telling me to leave the house. I was crying my eyes out, sat near his bedroom door, but he tricked me into leaving, thinking that he was going to come for a walk with me.7 months ago, I wouldn't have thought anywhere near something like this would happen and he would be this mean to me.I have started crying quite regularly now because of the smallest things because I don't think he loves me as much. Do you think this annoys him and is affecting us?I can't help crying and although he tells me he loves me, it's just the little things he used to do that told me and these don't seem as apparent any more.We have been having small arguments on and off for about 4 months now and I really don't know what to do because when we are OK with each other, we are amazing and have the best time ever. When we have our arguments though, I feel like there is no point because he is very stubborn about the situation.What should I do? I'm so confused =[ Reply to this Question
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reader, fakechococake  +, writes (13 June 2007):
so i'm pretty much having the same issue with my boyfriend now too. i sometimes feel like things are failing quickly. however, i of course think it can still be saved. i'd probably say that you should try to save it but if more arguments break out just give up. he doesn't seem to be worth it if you are so upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): he doesn't seem to love you as much as he says he does.
there are much better guys out there for you.
go out and get yourself one
good luck girl
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reader, angelfire02  +, writes (10 June 2007):
Sounds like he is slowly pulling away from the relationship. Things are always fun, and exciting in the beginning, but the truth of the matter is....good things always come to an end. Young relationships rarely last. Nothing ever stays the same. People change and theres nothing we can do about it. These are his feelings, and we cant control how someone else feels. These are signs that he just isnt happy anymore.
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reader, sunrise +, writes (10 June 2007):
 Hi, you dont seem to be havin fun anymore, a relationship is all about being friends with your partner and enjoying each others company, which you obviously did in the beginning, why has everything gone so wrong? what is it that you argue about? do you feel insecure in the relationship? do you no longer trust him? if this is the case why?
Sit down and talk to your b/f, let him know how you truly feel but remember to listen to him, he obviously has his reasons for acting the way he does and because you get so upset all the time he probably doesn't want to risk upsetting you anymore than you already are.
If you want this to work you need to find the cause of your unhappiness and try to put this right, if you feel happy and secure within this relationship this will have an influence on the way your b/f reacts when you are together. Your b/f probably feels like he's walking on eggshells and daren't say or do anything for fear of you getting upset and offsetting yet another arguement. Lifes too short darlin to be this miserable, talk to each other and accept what you hear. Good luck x
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reader, keely-h +, writes (10 June 2007):
 sit down have a class of wine and talk to him about it and try and work on things.give it a while but if things dont change i think you should end the relationship. have you every herd of the seven month itch .(sammantha jones says it in season three of sex and the city if you watch it )
hope all goes well xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): hi,
to be honest this boy isn't worth all of your tears, sure you get on well most of the time but when it comes down to meeting up with him and joking around, he can't take it. Maybe you should leave him, maybe you think you love him too much to leave him, but if he is causeing you this much pain and so many tears its pointless.
If you do decided to break up with him, don't be nasty but tell him why you have done this, he will just have to think it over. And if he wants you that bad he'll probably be back in your life soon after....
so cheer up your probably gorgeous and irressistable to any guy so take your pick x! =] Good Luck !
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