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female
age
41-50,
*aroline Harris
writes:Dear Cupid,I am a dominant female and my boyfriend is very submissive and because of this our relationship works well.I like to dress him up in my underwear and tease him and he quite clearly enjoys this. In fact he enjoys cross dressing completely at home and wears women's underwear beneath his male clothes when he goes out.I have taken many photographs of him (at his request) in skirts and dresses, pretty silky female undies, baby-doll nighties and negligees etc. all of which would cause him great embarrassment if anyone saw them.He says he's glad I have the pictures and recently gave me the email addresses of all his friends and workmates so that he would be powerless if I wanted to send out the pictures.I asked him if he actually wanted me to do it. He said that if any of them saw the pictures it would be the most humiliating thing that could ever happen to him and that he was petrified at the thought of it. Then he begged me to do it.Would there be any legal problems if I carried out his "punishment"?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 Defamation of Character, Interfering with an Individual's Right to Make a Living, Using the Royal Mail for the Purpose of Blackmail, Blackmail, Lewd and Lascivious Behavior, Assault, Public Indecency (by involving a third party, the recipient), and Slander are just a few charges that I could think of that could possibly be applied under the circumstances that you have described (seek legal council).
Whether or not he tells you that he is "powerless" if you send them out, he could sue you if you do! Don't even lick the stamp.
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reader, Diimo  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 um..for his sake don't send out the pictures! You know better than him as he is simply subservient. Keep your private lives private. don't risk jeporadizing his friendships and work for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): well, if he is tryin to say you did it with out his promition yes, but this is weird why would you even want to dress him in female clothing?and why does he want to wear it?........
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (26 December 2007):
 When I was trained as a police officer about 25 years ago one of the first things we were tought is that if it is rude it is probably against the law. They were right. Any time we saw something we thought was rude we could always find a penal code or a traffic code that we could use for it.
I would seek legal council on this one. Doc
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reader, Passthrough +, writes (26 December 2007):
 You could always just say you did it, and then threaten to send it to more people if he doesnt submit 100%
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): What are you NUTS? Don't do it! I had a friend, Jacqueline, who had an erotic website. One of her jealous friends, Jessica, emailed some less than pure photos to Jacqueline's friends and family. Jessica went to jail, had to do community service, and paid some really hefty fines... then there was the humilation that she ALSO suffered. Not worth it. Let him hang his own balls out to dry.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (26 December 2007):
 Yes, there would be.
This is part of your sexual relationship with him, and forcibly involving others in it, by sending them pictures, would in fact be an act of harassment for which you both could be liable.
In differnet countries, and states and provinces within those countries, people in alternative lifestyle tread this line very carefully. You can not involve others without their consent, and sending out those photos to people that would rather not see them could be harmful to them.
Think of it this way. You do not know what their pasts entail. One of the receivers could have been a male rape victim as a child that was forced to do similar things, or a man that was a jail house bitch that was subject to the same, but REAL humiliation. Getting an email like that could trigger unknown consequences. It esp makes you liable if someone loses a job over this, gets sent into therapy, and such esp if it heightens your sexaul relationship with him.
-Frank B Kermit of franktalks.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): Have you taken into consideration that this maybe his "escape" clause? I wouldn't do it but if you are considering his request I would get some legal advice first.
-J
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 I'm not sure about legal problems. But I wouldn't do it. However, I have a clear bias against humiliating someone.
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