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writes:Hello,We're engaged for nearly a year now, I like her but I don't think that I love her.We're sexually attracted to each other but other than that we have nothing in common. I told her once that I am not sure where our relationship is heading, she started talking about how she loves me and cried a little.She's 17 years old, and am 20.I am not sure what to do, is it better to break up with her before getting married? I need your advice please.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): Thanks all for your suggestions.
We were really in love before we got engaged but after that it slowly started to drop off, I'm not really sure what's wrong here.
It MUST be something wrong with me, these few months we've not been seeing each other and I'm not even calling her up to ask about how she's doing. She's always calling to ask about me.
The weird thing is that every few weeks I really miss her and call her up and get together and in the end of the day I return to my regular NOT IN LOVE MOOD or whatever it is.
Is this anything unusual?
Regards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): you don't need someone to tell you what to do.
first you need to be sure if you love her or just like her, i suggest you stay away from her for a while, and try to understand your feeling and then you'll find out whether you love her or not.
and then you'll know what to do, for the best of you both.
good luck
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reader, Was  +, writes (10 August 2010):
Dont do it man. As much as it might hurt her, if you dont love her, move on.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Don't get married! If you don't love her, then you'd be making a terrible mistake.
Don't marry ANYONE unless you're 100 percent sure you love them with all your heart and that they feel the same!! Marriage is binding, and should be for life.
Tell her you're not sure if marrying is a good idea... what if there IS some guy out there who would truly her? What if there IS some girl out there who you would truly love?
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Just because you don't love her, doesn't mean that you have to break up, but it would be a good idea to call off the engagement. Don't just jump into a marriage. If things are not great now, they won't get better magically when you slip a ring on her finger.
Take this relationship slower.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (10 August 2010):
 I think you know the answer to your question and know what you want to do, just do it and get it over with so you both can move on and heal. Of course she will cry and be upset and you very may will do the same.
If the time isn't right for you to marry then the time isn't right. I think you both are terribly young to go into a marriage anyway.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Definately it's better the break up before you get married. Engagement is much easier to break off than having to go through a divorce. The other option is to put the wedding off for longer and see if you grow to love her more.
Good luck dude don't go through with it if you are feeling unsure.
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