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writes:well today a friend of mine hurting me infront of my friends when i say hurting he had joked in me that was uncomfortable and touching words. It has been repititive to me in one day difference. Well today morning i told him that he had hurting me by what he has joked the day before yesterday night.he said sorry... hours later he met us when i was with my friends, some minutes after he have reapeted that bad joke while we r chatting...i was so furious and freaked out. Cuz of this i hv decided to stop any friendly communication wid him except greeting, despite we r neighbors and grown up together...plz comment wid my decision if i made a mistake...10ks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, bini magna +, writes (15 November 2012):
bini magna is verified as being by the original poster of the question oh i'm very thankful for u sincer and helpful advice.i have to stop with him cuz he hasn't been showed any kind of frindship qualities towards me,initially our friendship status has been on and off.friendship is all about love,respect,cooperative,tolerance,understanding,genuiness and so forth...ofcourse nobod iz perfect to fullfill all these requirements even ur soul mate.Especially if u disrespect and belittle someone and treat like a dog,i hv zero tolerance that's why i've enforced myself to decide this dicision...finally i am very much thankful 4 u by taking ur precious time to give me advice and suggestion!!!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 I mean you made it clear that you did not want it to be said again and that you were really offended by it, that should be enough for him to stop but it wasn't. Would I end a friendship over it? I think it would depend on what he said, and how close I was to him before. If he was someone that was very close to me and I will notice him being out of my life and it was because he was careless, and even cruel for repeating, I'm still not sure I would let him go if I felt his friendship meant more than this betrayal. but if we had grown apart anyway, then maybe I would just cut contact generally. Did you have a conversation with him after this happened again? Maybe he didn't know that the consequences would be you completely cutting him out of your life. I would follow up with him just to make sure he's clear that this is what happens now. You may find that he is very regretful and wants to change his ways. You weren't wrong in your decision necessarily, only time will tell, but listen to your gut, not your pride, on this, and figure out where you fall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): well it's hard to say because you don't mention what exactly he said to you. but the fact of the matter is that you confided in him that what he said upset you, and you let him know not to mention it again, and he choose not to respect you and said it again regardless of how it makes you feel. it's a lack of respect on his part. and i think as a friend, you should always be respectful of each others feelings. so no, you're not wrong for ending the friendship.
on the other hand, i'm a big advocate of forgiveness. so if he apologizes sincerely, i would probably consider accepting it. but that's just me.
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