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writes:The past year has been a rough one. I was in love with this guy and he left me for my best friend and then broke our friendship apart. Then in December one of my really close friends commited suicide unexpectidly. I try to forget about everything but I can't. I'm getting emotionally sick and i really just wanna give up but yet i have to stay strong for my family. I just wanna know how i can strong when i really just wanna give up? anyone have any ideas or suggestions?
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reader, snowqueen +, writes (27 April 2011):
This has been a rough year for you. Losing a friend this way is a terrible pain for you to go through. Anyone who lost a friend or loved one to suicide knows the grief and its not something that can just be ever forgotten. And also betrayal from those assholes - your ex and your ex best friend I can really understand your sadness. I am sorry you are dealing with this really difficult time pretty much on your own. Just wanted you to know that someone heard you. And I can say from experience that these type of life events will carve a very strong character out of you. That's a reason enough to keep you going. You will grow and mature from this, and learn so much about yourself and your resilience, and that will give you an advantage in life. Just don't hold it all in. You're gonna have to work through it. Talk about what happened, your feelings, emotions, everything. Keep a journal, take long walks. Eat, sleep, take good care of yourself. You need to find support even though you can handle it on your own, still, try to talk to one of your teachers, or guidance councelers maybe. You have the typical school stress too which is hard, you need to give yourself a lot of credit. It's ok to feel all you're feeling. Sometimes its easy to fall apart, or sometimes its hard to let it out. It's ok, don't put pressure on yourself to bounce back up immediately. You need to allow yourself to grieve, and to process all this. It takes time. You are strong and not just for your family, but for yourself. You will be ok, sometimes in life it seems like all the bad things happen at the same time, and it gets overwhelming, but don't lose sight of the big picture - there are plenty of good days ahead of you. You will find love and true friendships and so much more. Sometimes many good things happen all at once too! This is coming from someone who has trully been through hell, so trust me... just keep going and it will be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): Couldn't say it any better then snowqueen. That's good advice (5*)
It will take time to start getting through something like this. It's not going to be easy times for you but it will make you a stronger person in the years to come.
At this point in time, you need to vent and let it all out in a 'constructive' manner. Everyone has their venting points and you need to find yours. That's what counsellors are for after all. If you feel the need to, you could always make a rant post on a site that allows it (there's a few about these days), just let it all out to your hearts content. You can remain anomalous doing that and it will help out a lot just to let it all go. Do the same in your journal.
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reader, snowqueen +, writes (27 April 2011):
This has been a rough year for you. Losing a friend this way is a terrible pain for you to go through. Anyone who lost a friend or loved one to suicide knows the grief and its not something that can just be ever forgotten. And also betrayal from those assholes - your ex and your ex best friend I can really understand your sadness. I am sorry you are dealing with this really difficult time pretty much on your own. Just wanted you to know that someone heard you. And I can say from experience that these type of life events will carve a very strong character out of you. That's a reason enough to keep you going. You will grow and mature from this, and learn so much about yourself and your resilience, and that will give you an advantage in life. Just don't hold it all in. You're gonna have to work through it. Talk about what happened, your feelings, emotions, everything. Keep a journal, take long walks. Eat, sleep, take good care of yourself. You need to find support even though you can handle it on your own, still, try to talk to one of your teachers, or guidance councelers maybe. You have the typical school stress too which is hard, you need to give yourself a lot of credit. It's ok to feel all you're feeling. Sometimes its easy to fall apart, or sometimes its hard to let it out. It's ok, don't put pressure on yourself to bounce back up immediately. You need to allow yourself to grieve, and to process all this. It takes time. You are strong and not just for your family, but for yourself. You will be ok, sometimes in life it seems like all the bad things happen at the same time, and it gets overwhelming, but don't lose sight of the big picture - there are plenty of good days ahead of you. You will find love and true friendships and so much more. Sometimes many good things happen all at once too! This is coming from someone who has trully been through hell, so trust me... just keep going and it will be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Whattodo123
Thanks for the help! I am very concerned about my future. I use to be an outgoing girl who just wanted to have fun but things have changed. After my friend commited suicide i lost everyone. I went physco, i lost friends because of this. My family turned against me and said i was overeacting. I wouldn't eat I couldn't sleep i was constanltyl sick and had no ambition to do anything...I hate talking to people and I just want htis over with..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAfter everything has happened this year I've kinda lost everyone and really dont' have any friends anymore. I only talk to guys and i don't like to vent to guys cuz its just weird..i just feel like there's no way out
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): You really need to talk this out with some one. From what you said your family is out of the question, so if you have a friend you think can take hearing what you're going through then vent away to them. Otherwise, talking to a counsellor is a better option for you at this time.
What you're going through isn't easy at any age let alone in your age range. I was a pretty quite guy in my mid teen years and kept most things to myself as well, but trust me, it will only make things worse for you as you get older.
Just remember that you're never alone, there's always someone willing to listen. It may help a little to talk about your situation on help forums like this but nothing beats a face-to-face chat. You will get through this in time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Aunty Susie
Thanks for the advice. My family has all kinda turned against each other so that is not an option in my life anymore. I am very quiet and keep things to myself so no i have not talked to anyone about this besides friend..i just don't no what to do anymore there's a lot more problems then this it just seems like things never end and i just feel like im facing things alone..and i agree im to young to have this feelings..
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Do you have any one who you can talk to? Because you are too young to have to deal with these things on your own. You should turn to your family for support, thats where they can come in handy. Or what about a school counsellor, or teacher?
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