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writes: Recently I met a really nice guy through online dating and I'm too embarrassed to admit it to anyone. I haven't even told anyone about him. When I go out, I tell my parents (yes I still live at home at 22. Grad students don't get paid that much) that I'm hanging out with some friends or I'm studying or some other lame excuse. But they're getting suspicious because I'm going out more than normal and I'm breaking out of my pattern.Recently, my mom even accused me of using online dating. Who knows if she knows the truth or not. Maybe someone told her they saw me on it. I don't know. But course I denied it and got very defensive about it. So I've cut back on seeing him and it hurts cause I really do like him and wouldn't have met him otherwise.Is anyone else embarrassed about paying to meet people?Any advice on how to get my mom to back off with the questions? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fate100percent  +, writes (12 July 2011):
Personally, I've never used on line dating, but I don't think you should be ashamed of it! It's just an advance in technology that people who are busy, or shy or whatever reason now use it.
This guy might end up being the love of your life! (So does it really matter how you met?)
Stop worrying about what people think, and just enjoy it and getting to know him. (If people say anything nasty, they are probably just jealous anyway!)
On-line dating is fine, obv just remember if it doesn't work out with him and you meet someone else, make sure you keep safe, meet in a public place, tell someone where you are going etc, till you get to know them. If you don't feel you can tell your mum the truth, a little fib is ok! (He's a friend of a friend or something?) Good luck x
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (12 July 2011):
 There is no embarrassment about online dating at all!
"Accused of online dating".
DO some google search on the statistics of online dating. MOST people have met their partner ONLINE.
People are busier more than ever and do not have the social avenues they used to have 20-30 years ago.
People use to meet each other via family gatherings, church socials, school, etc.
I say PAYING to find a good match for YOU is smart and shows you are serious about not wasting your time. You are paying to filter OUT the bums you would meet in bars, clubs, etc. You are targeting the kind of person you want and paying for a service to find that person. You are NOT soliciting anything illegal or immoral.
If you meet someone and it leads to a happy, lifelong committment, those who are judging you now will feel pretty silly!
Now, if you met someone you like and click well with, go for it! The only person REALLY embarassed about it is YOU.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 I don't really understand why online dating has such a bad rap. My sister met her husband through an online dating site and they would never have met any other way but they are so compatible. Just come out with it and end the secrects. Once your parents meet him and judge him for themselves they will change their tune.
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reader, van1llabeeen87 +, writes (11 July 2011):
 I would probably keep quiet for a bit until you know whether or not you and this guy are serious about each other...Don't be embarrassed about online dating. Lot's of people do it and it's getting very popular these days.
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