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writes:I was on facebook and posted on my wall about how happy I am and how I think i am even more in love with my boyfriend then before.. the problem is all of his friends are commenting on it and saying thinks "like how is that possiable" and "I want scientific proof" and the worst one in my mind was saying that I love him because I am a blonde, implying that I am dumb so that's why i love him. Do I have a right to be morally offended by the way people are reaction to my display of affection to my boyfriend over the internet or should I just let it go? I am very upset and guessing I should tell him about how his friends are treating me about the way I feel for him.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (12 July 2011):
To be able to write on your wall these friends must also be face friends of yours as well as your bf. The thing about FB is that whatever you write on there, your friends can see (depending on your privacy settings). You are therefore putting your feelings up on public display, and as such I think you have to expect people to comment on them. It doesn't sound like these comments the friends have written are serious, they sound jokey to me. The bottom line is, what you've written isn't some sort of private correspondence, it's on your FB wall. It's fair game really. Moral indignation is going way over the top. If you don't like it, remove them from your friend list and talk to your bf about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): I think you're being a bit sensitive here for a couple of reasons. It sounds as though his friends are joking and have no ill intent. If anything they are mildly deprecating of him not you.
If your expressions of affection were meant for your boyfriend alone they'd be done in private. The whole point of broadcasting it on facebook is to announce it to others. Not only does this invite comment from some, but it is actually quite annoying to others. It's forcing your intimacy on them.
Read what others have to say about it:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/heart-spamming-on-facebook-makes-me-sick-normal.html
If your relationship and intimate feelings are sacred, then treat them that way and stop posting them on public, social networking sites.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): Use face book or the like and expect all and sundry to know things, this i am afraid is your choice so can not complain . You could always say what you feel in PRIVATE!
Your choice and your responsibility for what you write on face book.
To the comments they are only toung in cheek, a bit of fun, you are openly displaying your thoughts and they are only doing the same. If your not happy don't use it.
This is your own invitation.
spunky monkey.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Well, you can choose to be offended, but what purpose would that serve. You can not change what people think or say about you. However, on FB you can delete those people off your account and set your security to FRIENDS ONLY.
I think you are taking it a little too personally, because you are assuming waht they meant behind their responses. They could be just joking with you, which you can not percieve just from text comments.
I would not talk to your bf about it-it will only make you appear over sensitive and petty.
Who cares what they think? It only matters what your BF thinks about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Just block them if it truly bothers you that much.
Facebook is a breeding ground for cruelty.
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reader, van1llabeeen87 +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Tell him about how the friends are treating you. If he cares about you and respects you then he will handle it. It sounds like his friends don't really have much respect for him if they are talking to you like that.You can also block them.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Who cares what other people think. You love him, you are happy, stuff everyone else.
On a seperate note honestly I think Facebook is going to be the ruination of young people. There are so many people on here that are hurt by things others write on facebook. Lets go back to the tried and true way of communicating with people - Face-to-Face. Far less complicated!
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