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writes: I have had a flirtation with a man for the past 11 months we finally met and he just wanted sex. After all our conversation and emails which seemed to say love. I am broken hearted. Any advice?
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reader, StarNews +, writes (12 January 2006):
 I feel the internet can be very deceptive. A person can be anything to anyone in an attempt to get what they want. Its best to get to know someone face to face, though that can be risky in this situation. My best advice is to meet them casually, in a public place, and bring a friend with you. What better way for this lowlife to get into some innocent person's head, than online. I am sure this man makes a habit of it, searching for his next victim via the internet.
I am sorry that this experience left you with a broken heart. Look at it as a lesson to be learned and that you will be more cautious and much wiser the next time around.
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (11 January 2006):
 I am inclined to say that this man is a loser. Don't waste anymore time on him. He made it clear what he wants from you, and you're worth so much more. Give your heart to someone who deserves it.
On the other hand, you call your relationship with him a "flirtation," which implies that it isn't serious. If you've arrived at a mutual understanding that your relationship is merely a "flirtation," then perhaps it wasn't that out-of-line for him to expect sex, and only sex, when he met you.
In any case, love is about more than sex. You do seem to be on different wavelengths here. I think that you should forget about him and explore your options, as he doesn't love you. It's easy to say that you're in love with someone online (been there, done that), but sometimes you meet them in person, only to find that the feelings just aren't as intense (been there, done that). Don't let the man use you for sex. Start a meaningful relationship with someone who will love you for who you are. The sex will be wonderful, and it won't be all that you share together.
Best of luck!
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