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writes: I have been married to my wife for eighteen years. She is a cancer survivor and mother of our one and only child, a sixteen year old boy. She is collecting disability as her immune system is somewhat compromised due to a bone marrow transplant she had in 2001. Four years post transplant and her health is good. In spite of her doctors instructions she has started to drink alcohol again and to our horror she has started smoking cigarettes. She is not quite honest about these habits as I have found empty beer cans in various cabinets around the house and cigarette butts in the yard. I have become aware of some significant lies she has told me over the coarse of our marriage such as, before we got married she begged me not to have a traditional bachelor's party with topless dancers. I didn't have one. Years later her sister let it slip that she had a bachelorette party where they all attended a male strip club! There have been many more petty little lies that I have become aware of, while as God is my witness, I have not ever lied to her about anything. Since she is not working, her daily routine is to sleep until 11 or 12, wake up watch soap operas, and do very little around the house. She sleeps between 10 and 14 hours daily. Once at a new year's eve party she kissed her sister's husband avec la tounge. When we used to visit them she would insist on staying up after hours of drinking, in spite of my request to come to bed, in spite of my frequent requests both verbally and written, just her and him out in his barn drunk of their asses, again and again. Another incident with him was after his vasectomy. I walked up on the two of them talking and overheard her asking pretty intimate questions about the details of his surgery, he was surprised and said uh-oh. I have put up with alot because I loved her so much. Recently we went to a bar with them and he grabbed her ass in public, while she smilled. She refuses to go to counseling or to even apologize for hurting my feelings. I am very depressed and angry as these type incidents keep recurring. What should I do???
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reader, beenthere +, writes (1 January 2006):
go to counselling on your own. she sounds really horrible. i have an idea of how you feel as my partner does things that really hurt me and carries on without apologising. some people just do that and i don't know why but if you can't talk to her, is there anyone else who you can talk to about it who your wife will listen to? I'd really recommend asking her again to go to counselling but if she still refuses then, as i say, go on your own and make a point of telling her you're doing that
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