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*atiekate
writes:So he dumped me on Monday (over something pretty small). The problem is that he seriously lacks communication and instead of talking out problems and issues, he just runs away. I want him back!!! I've been doing pretty good with the no contact thing, because although I miss him like crazy and all I want is for him to stop being mad and realize that he made a mistake and does want to be with me, I haven't called, texted, or e-mailed him. Until today. I drove to his apartment (he was home- I saw his car) to give him back all the stuff he left at my place (movies, clothes, etc.). I placed the box on his porch and left. I called (of course, he didn't answer), and left a quick, breezy message on his voicemail to let him know that I put some stuff on his porch and I didn't want it to sit out there all day, I just wanted to let him know that it was there. While I know it was good to get rid of his stuff so I don't have to keep looking at it, I admit that I had ulterior motives. I wanted an excuse to see if he was home. I wanted an excuse to dial his number. I guess my question is this: will he call me? Will he appreciate the fact that I acted maturely and didn't trash his stuff or key his car like his last girlfriend did? Will it make any difference to him that I sounded fine on my message, not like some crying, wimpering, or bitter ex-girlfriend? Will any of these things prompt him to realize his mistake? Is it stupid that I keep expecting him to call?Let me add that our four month dating relationship was AMAZING! (Truthfully...not just my delirious perspective of the situation). Things were great, I know for a fact that we were dating each other exclusively, and all of this is over because of one night of me acting like an idiot. (Alcohol was involved). Are people really this unforgiving??? I miss him!!!
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reader, katiekate +, writes (31 December 2011):
katiekate is verified as being by the original poster of the question Update: he never called or texted me again. After two weeks of misery, I moved on. Lesson learned!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): i feel that when you last replied him so, it was obvious that u were pretending to be nice about it like as though "i broke up with u so what?" do u think thats what u really want him to think of you?
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reader, katiekate +, writes (6 March 2010):
katiekate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo clarify, I wasn't acting slutty, flirting with other guys, nothing like that. I was having a bad day, so I was already a little bit crabby, then had a few drinks and when we were in the car at the end of the night, I was being kind of b****, nagging...just being overall annoying and intolerant. I apologized, but he refused to talk to me, then dumped me two days later.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (5 March 2010):
katiekate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate: Four hours after I dropped his stuff off, he texted me (the only contact he's had with me since last Saturday, except for when he called me for 3 minutes Monday night to dump me). All he said was "thank you". I guess there's not much to be read into that, huh? I replied back about an hour later with: "You are very welcome. I hope everything's there and didn't get rummaged through by the neighbors! :) Lame, I know, but I was just desperate to keep the lines of communication open somehow. Advice???
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reader, weparley +, writes (5 March 2010):
(Alcohol was involved).
Once a guy sees his gf act like a slut or something stupid in that nature. You should best believe his desire for you went out the window. He saw (with his own eyes) that you can not be trusted. who was to say, how you could had acted if he wasn't around.
Thats' way he cut you loose.
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