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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was dumped by my boyfriend after almost 4 years together, and never given a real reason as to why and when I have tried to talk to him he is very cold and distant almost irritated. We met a couple of weeks ago and I said what I needed to say and he was very receptive and said he was not ready to start over and wasn't making any promises, but he isn't ready yet and needs more time. I recently called and asked if he wanted to hangout and he said no and that he doesn't want to hangout right now so I said that the ball was in his court i'll be here when he is ready. He then responded via text that he is not interested in reconciling at this time. He always seems to leave this topic open ended, he is not ready to start over but isn't making any promises he just needs more time and isn't ready yet, and he isn't interested in reconciling at this time, what does this all mean?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Hun it's over basically he doesn't want to start things up again with you. maybe he's found someone else he's really interested in and wants to give that a go i don't know but he doesn't want to try it again with you because he feels you guys had your time together and now it's time to be with other people.
i mean stay friends with him if you can do it and if he is willing to but just friends i mean he clearly doesn't want to start up again.
you guys were together a long time and maybe he feels for someone else now or maybe he just wants to be alone for a while re-live the single life.
Hope this helps hun. x x x :)
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reader, laura585 +, writes (17 June 2009):
Looks to me like he isn't interested anymore. You are young so that 4 yr relationship started when you were waayy young. As people grow up they change, it's a part of life. I know it will be hard since you love him and have invested so much time with him, but you should move on. Find someone that is interested at this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): It means you need to move on. Sorry. This does not sound even slightly open-ended. It just sounds like he does care about your feelings and doesn't want to be too blunt, but at the same time wants to move on and for you to do the same. If you really need a reason why to move on (I know I do in order to get over someone), I think you have a right to ask. But when you ask, you need to be wanting to know just for moving on purposes and not because you want to use it to get back together. I'm sorry, I know getting dumped is really tough.
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