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writes:really don't know how to say this......but ah will here it goes me and my cousin are really close as cousins should be and usually hang out. so as we sometimes do we went to his apartment and had some beer for old times sake and to catch up.....will as most say "we were only going for a small sip" which turned out to be a lot. next thing i know he is leaning toward me and is necking me.....i then remember are lips locking and then not very much. the next morning i woke up and we were still at his apartment and well i had my "you-know" and his "you-know-where".......so right know its been about 3 days and i don't know what to do. i sometimes get flashed of what we did and he doesn't want to talk about it but i do. right now this is sort of a relief to put this on here and at least get it out since of course we've been secretive of the whole matter but i just really need a way to deal with this whole thing.advice please.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): just relax and just let it go. the reason why it lingers into your mind simply because you want to do it again with him. well, your cousin might just get curious on you and will not do it again with you?. he might want to do it with new guy to satisfy his curiosity?just wait for few more days. he won't take the move again because he got you already. do not dream dear it's over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): My finance's father had a sexual encounter with his male cousin but they were kids. They basically dared each other to suck each others 'you know what" until they finished. He's straight as an arrow and every now and then he will think about it but it doesn't bother him anymore. I've actually known two people that have had sexual encounters with their cousins. However, it was boy & girl, but either way it's still the same. We all do stupid shit when we are drunk. Have you been attracted to him or any other guys? If not, have you had any curiosity about other guys? What about him?
It would be best to talk to him and I know he won't do it but you need to convince him to talk with you or else you won't have any closure on this. I'm sure that once the both of you clean the air and agree to forget about it you will feel much better. It's not the end of the world and we all mistakes. All you have to do is fix and forget and move on from it.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 how do you feel about this? have you been attracted to him before?
it sounds like too much alcohol made you both horny and bad of judgement. if he was the one who initiated it (although given the drunk state you cannot be totally sure), then there is a possibility that he finds you attractive. and maybe that is why he doesn't want to talk about it-or maybe he just knows its best put behind you two.
in reality you are related and this could be very awkward if it got out, so leave it as a one off.
too much alcohol and you will have sex with loads of people you wouldn't be interested in normally.
move on and let things settle
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reader, Jac2b55  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 You are in an extremely difficult position and wanting to talk about it is understandable. Unfortunately you cannot make someone else talk. I would suggest that you consider talking to a counselor, they are able to help you come to terms with what has happened without putting pressure on your cousin.
In life we all make mistakes, learning to forgive and move on is essential if you want to be happy.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 You had sex with your cousin?
You're both male, so no chance of a pregnancy. I'm not trying to be funny even, I'm saying it could have been worse. So many people drink too much, then do stupid things that they regret. At least you won't have a life-long memory in the form a child.
Or and STI I hope. Ask him if he's been testes, if you have had sex yourself in the past, have you been tested?
That's really all I would worry about. If you're STI free, no chance of a pregnancy, then I think you need to write this episode of as your first experience with a male (given you aren't a homosexual), and go on about your life. There's nothing you need to do about it, you were both drunk, and unless you feel like he was taking advantage and you were raped... then it was just as much your decision to do what you did as it was his. A drunk decision, and now you know to not drink that much again.
You said you want to talk to him about it.. what is it you want to tell him? Maybe it is best to just ignore it and not talk about it, you can't force him to talk anyway if he doesn't want to.
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