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*ryn2
writes:hi im 22 and ive being going out with my curent boyfriend for 4 years we have a baby together and hes 1 .i already knew him before so ive known him for about 8 years.ive never been in a relationship like this before he drinks all the time swear constant and always gets angry when hes drunk he told me i was nothing and i had nothing going for me and loads of other stuff.this has happened so many times and all when being drunk he promises it wont happen again but always does wedding holidays ect.im just scared im going to ruin my life with him .but dont want to split up for the babys sake and terrified of being alone i know we were to young to have a baby .do u think its just the stress of having a kid or is this not normal at aoll? he says i moan all the time and this causes him to be nasty to me.but i think thats just a excuse ..thanks x
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Sweetheart do you actually love this guy or do you just not want to be alone? It sounds like this guy is mentally abusing you, he's draining your confidence and he says these kinds of things because he's hoping you wont have the confidence to leave him. If you are unhappy you need to leave. I appreciate that you want to stay together for the sake of your baby and that is very brave, but what is better for the baby? Seeing an unhappy mummy in a bad relationship or a happy mummy who can give him all the love and attention he really needs?
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reader, Lovely Sweet Laura  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 I am sorry to hear you are being mistreated. It could be that he is an angry drunk who only lets out his frustrations when he is that state and ends up over exaggerating them. It could also be that he doesn't give a care about how he is making you feel and is only concerned for himself. Does he openly talk about his feelings in details when he is sober? By feelings I mean both the good and the bad. If this is something that is happening on a regular basis it will more than likely continue to do so until he sees that there is a consequence. If he still makes no moves to change it then the consequences are of no concern to him and you should try to move on because it won't stop. Best of Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This problem is very popular. Many women or girls experience it. If you could show him how he looks and what he does when he's drunk he might feel guilty and ashamed and that might stop this problem ..
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