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writes:Hey I'm 21 and I keep having dreams about my sixth grade crush. I have a bf we've ben dating for over a year and I love him yet I can't stop thinking about my grade school crush. To top it all off I bumped into him a couple months ago and well I had already had a few dreams about him. He works a block away from where I work. The one day I bumped into him I mentioned I had a bf and he was totally bumbed out. I don't know what my dreams mean but we get pretty physical almost everytime. What do I do?????????? Ps I've known this crush since kindergarden....
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reader, person12345  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I think just about everyone has lusted after a previous crush or ex or something at some point in their relationship, especially if the relationship has gotten very comfortable. Just because you're having dreams about him doesn't mean you even want to be with him. Could mean you just lust after him, and that's OK as long as it stays in your fantasies. He might be the amazing orgasmic steamy lover in your dreams, but he could be awful in bed in real life. Think about what this would imply in real life were you to break up with your current boyfriend (play out all the tears and sadness and picture his falling apart face) then think about how few of your relationships work out. If the guy you're with is good for you and you still want him around, my advice would be to just ride out the crush. Do something exciting in bed with your current boyfriend and try new activities to bring back the spark. If, however, you're still lusting after this guy and feel like it's not working with your current boyfriend, it might be worth it to go for it. However, just remember dreams aren't reality, and they don't always reveal "true desires."
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reader, Rainydaylady  +, writes (19 March 2010):
If you feel that strongly about him and you really think a relationship with him could work,I say go for it. But not while you're with your current boyfriend, you can't have the best of both worlds. What can I say honey? You have to choose.
Get to know him as a friend first, see if he is really what you make of him.
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reader, mikehimself  +, writes (19 March 2010):
A lot depends on your current relationship. How much does your boyfriend mean to you? Are you REALLY sure your crush has the same feelings? Is it worth dumping your bf (and crushing his heart) for another guy?
You need to examine what you already have, and know how you feel about it, to decide if you really want something else.
If you decide you like what you have and don't want to change it, well, dreams are innocent and can be fun. Don't worry about it.
Most importantly: don't make any rash decisions. Know what you want and go for it. Don't drag things out, and be honest with yourself and your bf.
Best of luck.
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reader, Missprettynpurple +, writes (19 March 2010):
awww these r the kinda things that wish happened 2 me cuz there sooo romantic,however the decsion between a bf an lik lifelong crush seems rli hard.for me im a bit of a dreamer so i wld go 4 the crush.however u hav 2 b aware of the consequences.you cld go out wit this crush an he cld not b wat u wanted an then realise the love u had 4 ure bf an regret it.or u cld get with ure crush an u 2 will fall madly in love.bascilly i wanna noe if ure a "go risk it" or "play it safe" kinda person.i also think u shld anaylis ure future find which of these two men fit that picture for u.
if u do pick ure bf i tink u need 2 stop thinkin of ure crush in that way.crushes can crush a relationship u noe.
hope it works out!
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