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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and things were great. But lately I've been doubting our relationship. It's just not fun anymore, and he's starting to just annoy me. I would break up with him but some things are holding me back:1) We have a lot of mutual friends and I am afraid all of the guys I am friends with will no longer hang out with me because of our breakup2) It would kind of be out of the blue, we rarely fight and as far as he thinks nothing is wrong3) He has a history of depression and I'm worried it would destroy himI still love him, I think I just want to be single again. I need advice, I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): I went through the same thing a few years ago. I tried to break up with him once and he cried and I couldn'nt do it (history of depression, and he annoyed the shit out of me) well after we passed the one year mark he dumped me out of the blue, slept with a couple of those mutual friends of ours and left me in a deep depression for 3 months. Don't worry what your frinds think, cuz they sided with him even though I was the one dumped. So you should be fine. Now hes dating one of my old best friends. DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR. DUMP HIM NOW. PLease take my advice and get back your independence before its too late. You'll miss it. PS I'm 19 and engaged to someone I love. Do I feel trapped right now or what.
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reader, SweetindianGirl +, writes (2 October 2010):
your reaosns are so nice shows you have a great personality, but think about it this way, 5 years down the line when hes on one knee, what wuold you say to him if he asked?! thats your answer now!
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reader, samismiles  +, writes (1 October 2010):
Firstly...your initial reason is mutual friends...that shouldnt matter, friends shouldnt be so fickle as to not bother with either of you, aslong as you can still be civil with eachother. Secondly just because you dont find doesnt mean you should stay with him, theres plenty of people you dont fight with that doesnt warrant a relationship. Thirdly you could help him with the depression thing and if you decide to break up with him make sure he understands that he's a wonderful person you just don't think you're compatible...I've found in this "chat" when you break up honesty allllllways helps, even though it can be a bit more of an upsetting experience, simply telling the truth can avoid you being too overdramatic. Is this relationship serious? Are you in love with him or is he just someone you love...in the same way you love a friends company etc? If you're young wanting to be single is fine, don't feel an obligation to someone...experience yourself first and make sure you're not staying wth someone just to avoid a difficult break up...because if that was the case you'd stay with them forever and end up being very unhappy. Take care.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 These reasons arent reasons to stay with someone if you dont want to be in a relationship.
1. if they are true friends then they wont fall out with you.
2. if your not happy then explain to him that you just need to be on your own.
3. you cant let his depression stop you, i no its hard and you dont want to hurt him but if the relationship is'nt working and you stay with him because of this you will end up resenting him.
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