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writes:Since I've gone back to school, I've met this girl that my other friends used to hang out with in the past year. Sometimes we get phisical contact, forced by her or by me, she get excuses to grab me in the chest, stomach or arm, during classes sometimes i see that she is staring at me, we have flirted a few times and we already talked about music, but i dont know if she likes me cause im not the only guy that she does that and she does it right in front of me too. I want to know, but i dont want to get her to know that I like her, cause if this doesn't work I still want to be her friend. I dont want to make a move that's too obvious, cause she will avoid me if she finds out, cause i dont think that she looks at me the same way i look at her... even if I try to make a move, i cant cause she is NEVER alone. In the breaks between lessons she goes to eat with all of her girlfriends, and when I go home after school I go the opposite way that she goes, and even if I want to go with her just to speak with her in private, i cant. She always goes with at least 1 friend. i need to get her alone so that i can speak to her, but i dont want to make her to think i care for her, for all of the reasons i wrote before. Usually i invite her and her best friend (girl), who is also my best friend to have lunch with me and my best friend (guy), and she usually comes. i got her alone for a few minutes, but all we talked about was music. we do this like once a week. I want to talk with her in private with a reason that doesn't say I LIKE YOU.Any ideas??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): Hi there! You sound sweet and well intensioned so to get her to talk to you ask her does she want to go to the music shop/cafe with you where your other bfs will be too. But tell them not to come because you want to talk to her alone. It's a little decitful but it's well intentioned. If you don't want to so that you could always ask her for tutoring. That way it's informal and you can ask her. Be upfront about it and get to the point quickly.....girls find it irratating if you beat it around the bush, it's frustrating and we become self consious.....and so are put off giving you a positive response.... So be direct and SMILE when you ask her. It shows that you're corageous (hot) and want to hear her honest opinion (appealing)
If it doesn't go to plan....leave with your dignity intact just say oh that's a pitty and leave when she does otherwise you seem petty (unattractive) and make sure that you'll still be friends.
Finally.....before asking her....be sure that you're ready for a relationship. It's no good getting a positive answer just for you to screw I up by realizing that you're "not ready"
Best of luck!!
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reader, candyspice  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 If you truly like her, you have to tell her. End of story. If she truly likes you, then she will be flattered.
While you are wasting time thinking of short cuts, some other guy can take the bold step and snap her up. Time waits for no man. If you can't speak then write!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Without being to obvious the next time you are on your own with her ask her would she like to go and see a film with you.
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