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writes: I need advice. I have been friends with this guy (J) for a long time, and recently we both confessed that we have feelings for each other. The problem is that i dated his brother (R) 3 1/2 years ago and he found out about us. (R) was furious, even though we havent talked for years. Now a couple days later (R) is still angry and (J) hasnt called me. I have talked to (R) telling him how i feel and that i dont want to come between brothers, but that (J) and I both have feelings for each other. (R) just says "I dont care" which after yelling at me and (J) seems like an untrue answer. HOw do i sort this out? should i give up on (J), the one guy i have had feelings for in the last 2 years? Should i ignore the bonds of brotherhood? what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2005): It's been 3 1/2 years. As long as J is willing, you have every date to go ahead and date. R needs to get over himself. I guess the length of your relationship with R plays a factor (how longterm were you guys?), but still, 3 1/2 years is a long time. So go ahead.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
Many folks believe there is a Cardinal rule in dating.Don't date blood relatives of your ex !If you continue in your relationship with your ex's brother, your life will be filled with tension & conflict.Relationships are tough enough WITHOUT added confusion.They will ALWAYS be brothers & you'll remain stuck in the middle of their hostility, towards each other, and towards you.Eventually, the only person who will lose...is you.I believe you see alot of qualities in your ex's brother, that also attracted you to your ex when you met him.There's OTHER men with the same wonderful qualities.There are plenty of fish in the sea...I'd suggest you pull up your line & move your boat to another fishing territory.Guard your precious heart & give it time to heal.You will fall in love again some day...to a special man with "less family baggage".Be wise...move on, before your heart is shattered.
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