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female
age
36-40,
*rysberry
writes:My boyfriend and I have known each other most of our lives and dated in the past but split up when he went to the army. He recently came home for good and we started seeing each other again and recently made things official between us again. Im concerned because it is very hard to get a hold of him. Sometimes takes him hours to call or text me back.. Why is this a problem? Because he has no job... And really no reason not to be available... I dont know what to do because this makes my mind wonder to the worst. I dont want to sound pushy and possesvive but I want him to know how I feel. What should I say to him without sounding too controlling?
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reader, Isa123 +, writes (13 April 2010):
 Okay sweetie, this is a little vague. I'm an Army Girlfriend myself.
It all depends where he is right now. Is he at a duty station, AIT, etc?
My boyfriend also lags in calls and text messages. And he specifically apoligizes for it because he was busy with work, a job without warning, etc. So I accept it and everything's fine.
You have to understand that the Army comes first in his life, not you. As sad as that is. But he's protecting his country, and you're PART of his country =)!
Realize that he's busy and there will be times where the Army randomly assigns him something.
If I were you, I'd get to know his job as much as you can. Ask him questions on what he does. His schedule. Get to know what he does.
However,
If he's home for good and does nothing, I'd still talk to him about it. But you never truly know. Bottom line, you shouldn't worry too much about this.
Good luck to you sweetie.
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