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writes:This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it.I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality.Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- neither of us particularly want me pregnant at this age!So, I started the pill (we'll be using condoms as well- just wanted a secondary defence).I don't particularly want to tell my mom that I'm on the pill because she'll flip at me- my boyfriend and I haven't been together that long, but have both had physical relationships in the past (mom doesn't know about this either) and feel that we're ready to take this step.I'm on the proestrogen pill, and I found out that I do not have a 'withdrawal bleed' during my free week.Does anyone have any ideas of how I can 'fake' a period, so my mom doesn't get suspicious? I thought about throwing tampax away or something?AND PLEASE DON'T LECTURE ME -_-
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): Hey there!You could tell her that you went to the doctors because you got really bad period pain last time, and they prescribed you the pill but it stopped your period completely. Then you'd be telling her the truth about being on the pill and not having your period, but not telling her about the sex. You have to tell her one day though!Hope this helps
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reader, Shadow Rose  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 I'm in america, and our legal adulthood age is 18, and I assumed it was the same worldwide xD Another point for people who say Americans are too ignorant!
But anyways, if it's legal, and you're ready, you shouldn't be hiding anything from your mom. My mom only knows if my little sister makes a mess, so regardless of if you still want to hide anything, I doubt she'll notice!
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reader, KittieS +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Your being sensible I don't know why any one would lecture you, your also 16 so it is legal for you to have sex with your boyfriend, and good for you for being sensible enough to use condoms and the pill.
Can't imagine your mum going through the rubbish for evidence, but you could use another pill. In the UK there are many options, I take marvelon which does involve a seven day break and a light period.
I actually started taking the pill when I was 15 not because I was sexually active but I was suffering with extremely agonising, very heavy periods which was causing me terrible issues during exams. whilst still painful the pill actually helps me in that I am not so heavy which prevents me almost passing out.
I would suggest you go to see the nurse or a female doctor at your surgery to discuss your concerns about telling your mum, the nurses attached to surgeries are usually excellent! Also and I'm sure your aware as you seem to be a sensible young lady you should now your sexual active start having regular smear tests and discuss the vaccine (if you haven't already) available to young women for cervical cancer in the UK.
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reader, natasia +, writes (12 October 2011):
 You can't fake it, but just keep the whole business private. Does your mum snoop, do you think? There's nothing you can do, though. Just don't leave pill packet in bathroom bin ...
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reader, Lolly_Poll +, writes (12 October 2011):
There are other reasons to be on the pill, not just as a contraceptive. My sister was advised to go on the pill because of a hormone imbalance. I'm in talks with my doctor about going on the pill because of aching boobs. If your mum questioned it and you didn't want to tell her, then you could go with that angle :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): I agree with YouWish, I do believe that if you're old enough and mature enough to be sexually active, then you should be old enough and mature enough to stand up for yourself about it. Having said that though, I know what parents can be like. When I was 17 I wanted to go on the pill, my main reason was because my period was irregular but I had met the guy I am still with today and knew eventually one day we would make that move and I thought it was safer I had that protection now than too late. I had asked my mum about going on the pill, but she flipped, and thought the worst that I was just going to have sex. My mum is very against sex at a young age. As far as I know, her age limit for it was 18, but when I turned 18 she was still very strict in telling me I was too young to engage in such activities. I think she's just having a hard time letting go of her little girl, but she is just scared that I am going to fall pregnant.About a month and a half ago I was getting quite frustrated due to the fact I wanted that double protection for whenever my boyfriend and I made that move, so I went out like you did and got on the pill. I've been hiding it from my mum ever since, but seeming as I still get the withdrawal bleeding, I have nothing to hide about that.But having to throw out tampons etc? I think that is just a bit silly. Either switch to a pill with withdrawel bleeding if it makes you feel safer from your mum finding out (personally I don't think it's much of her business, or anyones), otherwise is she really going to know that you're not on your period? If she does however, she might start to fret that you're pregnant or have an eating disorder or something.Goodluck though :)
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (12 October 2011):
 your mum is not the guardian of your uterus! i say don't fake nothing. you are a 16 year old adult, so if she asks why your not having periods tell her (even though it is not really any of her business) that you are using the pill, (you are also using condoms so she cannot get you on the 'you could catch something' angle). yeah she may flip but then hopefully get over her hissy fit and just be glad that you are being responsible. i am a bit confused as to why your mum is this controlling with you, unless there is some cultural or religious reason?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): why does your mum know about your periods at all? isn't that private? if she asks you if you need tampons or whatever just say yes and leave it at that.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Eventually the truth comes out. I hope you will avoid the charade and just let her know what decision you made.
I would be far more relieved to know my girl was on the pill than preggers or worse, ill from an absense of her period.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Your mom must really be harsh on you if you're having to tell us twice in all caps not to lecture you!
I echo what the other aunts have said. As a mom, I'd be actually proud of the maturity level of my kid in taking on birth control. I would have flipped out if I heard "Mom, I'm pregnant" far more than the revelation that my child is now sexually active.
That being said, you might want to switch to a pill that still has periods on it, because if you stop having periods altogether, your mom will wonder if you're pregnant. The only way to explain non-periods if you're not pregnant is to be heavily athletic.
The only way to pull it off is to buy and throw away tampons as if you'd have had to use them. Otherwise, you might just have to have a talk with your mom. She'll freak out and flip out and yell and scream and threaten possibly, but it'll actually be the moment where you're no longer a little girl in her mind.
I'm in favor of the heart to heart talk. I've always been of the philosophy that if you're old enough to become sexually active, you should stand up for yourself. I had ultra strict parents as well, so trust me, I had to talk to them as well.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (12 October 2011):
 I would go with person12345's suggestion or get switched to a pill where you will get a period. But, wait until you get to the last week of pills to see if you are actually going to need to worry about it. Also, you are young, so while you are trying to figure this all out, you can use the excuse that you think your cycle is changing. Mine did that a few times when I was younger.
And it's great that you and your boyfriend are being responsible. It shows that you are very mature. Good luck with the mom thing.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 October 2011):
 personally as a mom I'd be very proud of a daughter who was taking this grown up step responsibly.
there are pills where you only get 4 periods a year...
but again I was the mom of a teen daughter and I never monitored her periods.. I knew of course because she was so moody and hormonal right before...
but yeah... you've been given good choices....
might be hard if she monitors you very closely including your clothes.. because no matter how careful we girls are there are always accidents on undies...
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 I was on the progestrone pill and always got a period on the free week. Do you ahve 7 sugar tablets to take? If so you should get a period while taking those.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 October 2011):
I'm also having touble understanding how you wouldn't have a period during your "off" week if you won't be having any sort of hormonal pill in your bloodstream? From what I understand, unless you're on the pill that you never have an off week or have the shot, IUD, etc. where you have hormones continuously there--you'll get your period.
Anyhow, if what you say is true and you understood it correctly and you don't get a period. Do you really think your mom pays that much attention? I don't know how your mom is, but I don't think she would condemn you or hate you if she found out you were on the pill. If you feel more comfortable just throwing some tampax away then that's an option. But I honestly think you're worrying a little too much.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Changing to another type of pill that does give the withdrawal bleed is also an option, of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): When I am on the pill I have regular "periods" during the off week. The 4th week of pills doe not contian hormones. Many women have a light period during that time. Unless you are on some other type of pill (for me IUD, or Depo stopped my periods, but regular 1 month pills do not,) you may have a period, just lighter than before.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (12 October 2011):
Keep track of when your period was supposed to be, each month (write it down in your calendar) and then box a package of tampons for that week. Give the tampons away to a friend if you want to later on. Then take out the trash during that week so she doesn't get the chance to rummage through the trash.
If she at some point raises suspicion just be honest with her. The cat has to come out of the bag eventually as she can't possibly expect you to be a virgin until the day you die.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 I am not going to lecture you. You are doing the responsible thing by going on the pill if you are planning on having a sexual relationship. So good for you. Where the progesterone pill is concerned it doesn't necessarily mean that you won't have a period. It effects different woman different ways. You may still get your period or else have some spotting, around 25% of woman have no period at all on it. If this happens to you and you fear your mum will catch on well then why not go to your doctor and ask for another pill where your period will be regular on it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Why would you have to fake a period? Is your mom that paranoid that she goes through your garbage? If she is, just tell her you bought a menstrual cup and the blood goes down the toilet.
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