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writes:i wrote into this site last week concerning a sister-in-law that has been after my bf since 1969 when her husband and my bf's brother died. she said that day so i have been told that she wanted my bf since her husband died. after my bf's wife died nothhing happened as far as her trying to get my bf. i think it is because she did not know if he would ever date again and also because she had remarried. however she does not live with her husband and he lives in another state. in other words, since they are very wealthy, it is just a business relationship. in july my bf broke up with me, but we are back together but none of his family knows it. his kids do, but other than that, no one knows. so what i am trying to say is that this sister-in-law does not know. she thinks my bf is available and her son which is 40 yrs old, made plans to meet my bf over the weekend at this womans house. it would involve a 2 night stay and i put my foot down. i told him that i thought that this son and also his mom is trying to get my bf. all of a sudden, this son is very interested in getting involved with my bf, which is his uncle. i told my bf. that if he went to visit this mother and son, that i was going to be finished with our relationship. he changed plans and told this man that he could not meet him at his mothers house, so now the son says that he will fly (he has his own plane) one day this week end to visit with my bf. since none of them know that we are back together, i cannot be at my bf's home when this guy comes to visit. it just seems strange to me that all of a sudden, this man (the lady's son) is wanting to visit my bf. also, my bf wen to his class reunion 2 weekends ago and darn if she didn't call and ask him to stop by her house on the way to the reunion she left a messge that she would love to have him stop by and maybe get a glass of water, or maybe if he needed to get rid of some water, or what ever his needs might be and maybe she would even cook him some lunch. to me this is a very suggestive message to leave on my bf's phone. he did not go by there because i was with him on the trip. her son has been very persistent and calls my bf about 2 or 3 times a day just to make sure everything is set up for the visit. i have told him that i did not want him to go and stay in the same house as this woman even though there would be other people there. my bf says he has -0- interest in her. also he reminded me that she is a married woman. however, he forgets that her relationship with he husband is strictly business and they live states apart. i personally think that this son of her's insist that he come to see my bf so that he can try to get my bf and his mom together. what do you guys think? i don't want to be made a fool out of. please help me!! i need some imput from someone that does not know us and to know what it appears to be as you see it. thanks.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (12 October 2007):
Trust your bf and don't think up these long stories about what may go wrong.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 October 2007):
 He has his own plane. They are really rich. You'd think there normal first response would be. We're rich, we'll come to you, instead of you spending your money. I'm not saying I'm rich, but I had more money than my daughters mother. I knew it would be hard for her to visit our child, I drove her 1000 miles to her moms and stayed the weekend at a motel. I'd never been to Arizona, so that was my play time, then drove her 1000 miles back home.
I think it appears as if you'd be correct. Why this mother involves her son, if I were him I'd want to stay out of it, of course if his hefty allowance is threatened. This really reminds me of something that would happen from the TV show Dallas that was on years ago.
I think you're right not to trust her. I do know some who have the "business" relationship. It costs them more to get divorced than to stay married. There's one close to where I live, their married, live together, separate rooms, he brings his girlfriends home, and she does so with her boyfriends, but to get divorced it's contracted that they'd have to dissolve a business that is now earning over 30 million a year.
I wish you luck with this. What I can't figure out is why isn't your relationship more known. Why keep this a secret?
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