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writes:I'm tired of a lot of things. I'm talking about A LOT of things. How is it that certain boys become somewhat of a weakness for me? I was sort of seeing this guy. I guess I say that because when we hang out... and he acts a certain way with me. He holds my hand and crap like that. He calls me his "friend" but it's confusing... he kisses me and what not and I wonder if he does this to every girl he considers a friend. We've had sex in the past... but as "friends"... and I knew it was going to change everything. It did. He called me the other day to complain to me about his trip to austin... I was listening. He said that he went to austin to get back together with his ex and when he was leaving she broke up with him. He was also complaining about how no one cares. And get this... he's 21! I guess I felt jealous towards his ex... I don't know whether I have the right to be mad but seems to me he's playing a little game. I don't ùnderstand his motives or anything. It's damn confùsing. I care for him but there's this part in me that's numb. What does this all mean? What should I do?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (9 September 2007):
Sweetie, you've got every right to be mad. He's confusing you because it sounds like he's pretty damned confused himself. I don't know if he's intentionally playing games or just doesn't know what the hell he is doing. It is possible that he's trying to get back together with his ex and you are his back up plan, but if that were so, I don't know if he would have ever admitted to trying to get back together with her, especially after it didn't work. Maybe he's going the friends with benefits route with you and not telling you. I couldn't tell you exactly what he is thinking and he might not be able to either. You've got to sit his butt down and ask him where you two stand and where he sees it going and then figure out if you like what he has to say. You're confused and his continued actions aren't helping things and you've got to let him know.
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