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*irdman58
writes:Ok me and my g/f broke up about 2.5 months ago. We dated for about 2 years. Our relationship was good for the most part. We had fights but we got past them because we loved each other. We were both each other's first real loves and first to have sex. Anyways the last 3 weeks of our relationship we argued really bad which is why we broke up. I was mad because she was spending more time with her friend who was going off to college and not me. So we got into it because of that. Also she was going through some stuff with her grandmother who she was at the time living with. Her grandmother was controlling and did not like me and she made it hard for us. But she moved out with her sister and we argued and broke up. I tried hard to convince her to come back to me I begged and pleaded and did all the things that are wrong to do. I tried for over a month everything I could think of but I now know I drove her further. But she would still take my calls and call me back when she missed my calls. Even though we would argue about our situation. Anyways I found out that about a few weeks later after we broke up that she was dating this guy she used to work with. she quit her job becaus him and another guy would give her crap because she was a good girl and didn't do drugs or party like they did. I think this is just a rebound relationship and he was just the first guy to show her some attention because why would she go out wiht a guy who does stuff that she always made fun of people for doing. Anways I talked to her best friend who said that for the first 2 weeks after we broke up she debated on whether to go back to me or go out with this guy and she was drining pretty heavily. She said she was pretty upset and the day we broke up she about got sick. She said that she was so scared to lose me and that she knew that it would workout with me but she was too young to be tied down to one person for her whole life. But she jumps into a relationship less than month after we break up. But like I said this guy does stuff that she doesn't agree with so why would she be attracted to him. She still talks to my friends and my cousin and of course they ask her how her relationship is going and she says oh it's great. But I don't think she would tell them if something was wrong anyways because of course they would tell me and then I would know all her problems. I don't know what to do. I haven't talked to her in a month because I just want to move on but I also still love her. I think she will come back because we had so much. I don't want to wait around forever. But I just wanted to see if anyone could tell me if she might still love me or if any of this means anything.
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 October 2008):
 I'd move on. Don't punish yourself because she decided to be with someone else. She might see you waiting around and figure she can keep you on hold while she plays. At some point, if it's meant to be, it will be. You don't know when that might be, but don't stop your life, waiting to find out.
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