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writes:I need advice asap! Okay, there this boy we'll call him Tom and there's my best friend in the world Kim. We tell each other everything and are super close for so many years now she is also my blood cousin.Well here's my problem when I first met Tom years ago I liked him ever since I saw him. Then when Kim met him she thought he was cute and kinda had a crush on him and told me about it. Now even though I met and fell for him first I just never said anything to her about how I felt for him too. I just listen to her and let it stay inside me. Well Tom likes me and I still care for him so much it's been a couple years since I seen him but he just came home from the Navy and came to visit me.Well Kim has a boyfriend that she loves for the last three years. So what happened is me and Tom had sex when he was here. Now I don't know whether I should tell her or keep it as one of my deep dark secrets along with the feelings I've had for him and the other stuff we done together throughout the years. Now she is the type of person who will get extra mad even though it was just a little kid crush and it was years ago and she is in love now. So should I keep it as a secret between me and Tom and then eventually if we ever end up together then I can just tell her how I felt or should I take a risk and tell her what we did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I don't see why your friend would be angry with you for admitting that you like Tom. They never went out or had a relationship, right? For her to be angry with you would just be childish. Hopefully she would laugh and be happy for her. You don't need to tell her what happened between you and Tom. She doesn't need to know that. Just say that you have always liked him, and still do. That's enough. Its kind of you to keep your feelings inside, but she has someone and I don't think you need to keep it a secret.
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 Just tell your friend that you really like Tom. There is absolutely nothing either of you can do about it and she would have absolutely no reason to be mad at you. Having a kid crush on somebody does not make them your property! On top of this if she is in love with her current boyfriend then she would have no reason to mind whatsoever. I'm going to gamble on this and am willing to bet that your friend won't be mad at you, in fact she may even be happy you've found someone you like who likes you back. If she isn't happy for you then what kind of friend is she anyway?! Oh and there is no need to tell her that you had sex, telling her you have feelings for him would be enough. Your private life is your own and you don't need to tell anyone else about it if you don't want to ever.Keeping your emotions all bottled up all these years for your friends sake is really sweet by the way but in future try and be more open. This isn't a criticism but you'll feel better about your problems in the future if you talk about them!Best of luck with Tom! Lets hope you get to keep your friend too!
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