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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have a bit of a dilemma with two boys, me and my ex (j) who I've been on and off with for 9 months now and we have had some really bad relationship problems, and i was crazy about him but he has broke my heart so many times over the last 7-8 months its unreal. Some of the problems are that he's a liar, user and was really petty about things, I wasn't allowed any boy friends but he would talk to girls and a lot more.But lately I have a new job with my friend, and she has someone working for her who is (k), who I really took a shine to the first time I met him a couple of months ago, and lately my friend is trying really hard to get us to get together, so me and (k) are getting to know each other more, just as friends. I do like (k) as I've got to know him better and things have been going well over the last few weeks. But (j) has been trying really hard to make things work with me, and he's treating me better than ever before, but in the past he has been like this and a day or so later he treats me rubbish again. Where as (k) treats girls a lot better than (j), but I love (j) to bits even now, but I do not want to be in a relationship with him.I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on what I should do, because I love (j) but I don't want to be in a relationship with him if were going to be on and off and keep being heart broken.. so do I give him a 100th second chance or do I try with (k) as a fresh start and see how this goes? I know I need to sort my head out first but I need a strangers opinion on this to help make it clearer, any advice would be greatful.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 June 2012):
 I've not read your question, just read the title.
The answer is no, you don't give him another chance, this shouldn't even be a question, this should just need an ounce of common sense to decide.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 You are kidding right ?.... Being 16 is a good excuse for being naive or unexperienced, but not for being codependent or totally irrational.
The 100 th second chance ?.... Only if you totally despise yourself , have no self respect, and WANT to be hurt.
First time shame on you, second time perhaps still shame on you. Third time definitely shame on ME, and 100th time,...oh please. Really, you should not even be asking.
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reader, Charter114  +, writes (5 June 2012):
Your answer is in your title. If one treats you better than the other, then he's the one you should be with. And if you don't want to be in a relationship with your ex, then don't be.
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