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writes:I broke up with my bf of over a year a few months ago. We tried to stay friends. I only did bc I was hoping things would respark. (kind of hard when this is long distance.)anyway, on his visit home I told him I cant stay friends with him anymore bc it's killing me. i told him we had to cut ties. He understood. He didn't know I still had those feelings.Well.. I can't take not having in my life. I wrote him a letter asking if he'd consider us getting back together. I told him to take all the time he needed to think about it.It's been 5 days. I only said in the letter how I would like to see us get back together and he should think about it. I never straight out asked. Did I need to? This silence means he's thinking about it, right? Any decent guy will reply knowing that I'm sitting here waiting and hoping, right? He must realize that even if I didnt straight out ask the question?
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (26 July 2009):
Some men react differently to difficult situations, you say the decent guy would reply knowing how your feeling yet i bet this guy has no idea that its eating you up, hes thinking now only about what he can do, he needs to rethink it through his head before he does anything about it its not exactally great for you and his silence will obviously worry you but maybe hes changed and hes rethinking it all? isnt that better than jumping straight in only to make the same mistake again? You can look at this from so many ways, unless you speak to him youll never really know, if its getting to you to the point where your not moving forward and your living in hope of his call then i suggest you take the step and call him, keep it simple so you dont come across to full on.
Maybe after some time things will be clearer and your future will get off on the right foot?
Something has got to give, one way or the other. Youve taken the first step so id give it some time. You cant guess what hes thinking, last time things were left and things were said that may of damaged him and thats why hes holding back, i think you need to talk face to face. Take a different out look on this second chance.
It needs to work both ways and i know that it could hurt but you may need to accept that he cant do it again, some people never go back to what hurt them in the past.
The more open minded you are the less likely you are to hurt, it could go either way and im sorry the wait is hurting at some point you will get your answer, its simply a matter of when. Best if luck
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