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writes:I'm 32 and a single mom, been on my own for 4 years (kid is 4.5), had been with ex for 12 years on and off (emotionally abusive relationship).So 3 months ago I met a guy online. Since then we've texted couple times a week, and he calls every other week. Last time he even talked to my child. This guy seems really kind, is interested in what I'm up to in my life, asks after my Mum who is very ill.He has told me loads of things about his family without being asked but we have never met up yet. What makes it worse for me is there's millions of guys online worldwide and this guy lives very close to me - so close that he texted me one day to say he can see my garden shed from his bedroom window lol. My friends tell me he sounds like a player. I was only ever really with my ex so I so inexperienced at all this and would appreciate your opinions - he calls and texts all the time, has known about my child from day one, seems interested, calls for like an hour at a time, even spoke to my child-after 3 months we still havent met up (though I am only free one night mid week when my kid is at my ex's).So is he a player? Or is he just shy like I am a bit? The longer it goes on the more terrified I am of meeting up and being rejected! I've texted him to say hi and ask if he's free to watch a movie or something next Wednesday, i've been direct but am really stuck with this!!
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 thats wonderful hun, good luck with this one xxxx
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reader, singlemom07 +, writes (17 December 2007):
singlemom07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast update for now...
Well ended up meeting this guy - he's lovely. Chatted for ages, no breaks in the conversation, sent me a msg after to thank me for calling! Knew he was cute but even better looking in real life, so another bonus. Think I've really fallen for him already! Hope he feels the same or at least if we can hang out for a bit and become mates that'd be great too. So thank you all for listening to silly old me! Confident me is here:) Good luck to everyone
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reader, singlemom07 +, writes (11 December 2007):
singlemom07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnother update:
Well not so much a reply to Sunday's text but he sent me a msg today asking if I was feeling better and was I busy with work etc.
Was good, waited few hours before replying (had been on a call so knew as soon as msg received!) After saying about feeling better / work etc basically said been trying to work out why we haven't met up yet... hoping he's just shy and not just looking for 'textual' friends and to call me
Hope I did the 'right' thing... I'm thinking he will only contact me again if he really is interested in meeting up. This is messing with my head lol
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reader, singlemom07 +, writes (9 December 2007):
singlemom07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:
Well I've chickened out of calling him. Figure that if he did answer then if we arranged something would it be cause I called or would it had happened anyway. Guess my self esteem is getting shot to bits right now - which I know isn't a good frame of mind to be in! I did text him though - he / his brother were having a party at one of their houses last night so just asked if it was a good night and left it at that.
One of my friends says just to call round at his door and say hi but I know that's not sensible in the whole scheme of things!
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reader, singlemom07 +, writes (6 December 2007):
singlemom07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies so far. I met this guy on an online dating site and we chatted for ages before realising we lived so close (basically theres a rail track so when chatting one night we could each hear the same train in the others phone as it went past!)
Because I was honest in my profile thats how he knew I had a kid. He lives on his own but has told me all about his family, his brother and his wee nephew.
I'll wait it out til Sunday / Monday then try and call him to see about Wednesday if he's free. He always calls me so guess if he didn't want to answer then he won't.
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reader, singlemom07 +, writes (6 December 2007):
singlemom07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies so far. I met this guy on an online dating site and we chatted for ages before realising we lived so close (basically theres a rail track so when chatting one night we could each hear the same train in the others phone as it went past!)
Because I was honest in my profile thats how he knew I had a kid. He lives on his own but has told me all about his family, his brother and his wee nephew.
I'll wait it out til Sunday / Monday then try and call him to see about Wednesday if he's free. He always calls me so guess if he didn't want to answer then he won't.
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reader, agony anuts rubby +, writes (6 December 2007):
 hello,
it seems like this guy really do's like you. meet up somewhere safe not in your own home untill you have met him a few time's.
when you start to trust him then invite him round for a movie. you dont have to ask him out or he asks you out you can become friends and take it from there.
but remeber be carefull.
good luck rubbyX
ps let me no how you get on.
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (6 December 2007):
Sounds like a guy who has known you for a while, and been scared to approach you, finally found you online and realised that was the only way you would ever know he existed. Go with what peiriaman says, make a date to meet him, but somewhere public and with a friend if you can. You never know, he could be that nervous dad from the nursery lol.
Take care and good luck, he sounds geniune enough, you havent said anything negative. Go for it xxx
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